@independentpen@actuallyautistic Ooh, haha, that question requires an essay. From my brain, anyway. The issue is differences in definitions and intentions of usage of the word. You and I probably define “lazy” as failing to meet the minimum required standards. But “lazy” can also be used manipulatively.
Perhaps you can get clear on the minimum standards required from your role and meet those only as a start and re-assess over time.