I've seen an increasing number of posts on the fediverse about mansplaining, reply-guys and such (e.g. the different types of reply guy). This usually involves a very broad definition of the reply-guy concept, including "anyone who engages on a public post who isn't inflating my massive ego".
To my #actuallyautistic friends: this is a trap! If you offer ANY comment, engagement, or question except "this is so true/u r awesome" you will get blocked and/or patronised (even if you aren't explicitly criticising them). It's best to avoid the topic completely, even if there are some massive generalisations or over-simplifications, or if you feel its an interesting topic and compelled to discuss further, don't bother!
A lot of it feels like it is policing autistic people, with the double whammy that quite a few ASD people won't notice that it's a trap. @actuallyautistic
This is one of my biggest problems with the cultural left (of which I consider myself a member). Sometimes, any disagreement or criticism at all is seen as “reply guy” or “mansplaining”. It gets to the point where the only proper response to anything is agreement and praise. That’s not discussion, that’s just fishing for validation and getting mad when you don’t get it.
I frequently see posts using letter scrambles, and wonder what those scrambles mean to that person. I know better than to ask.
A few days ago, I tried to decipher a post. All the words were in English. I recognized the words. The order of the words did not make sense. Not sure what -ese it was. Wasn’t legalese, medicalese, or any other I semi- recognize, even if I can’t comprehend it.
@foo@actuallyautistic before I transitioned engagement and information was “confident, good leadership, willingness to contribute” and now the same behavior is “reply guy/arrogant/sexist” and really it’s all infodumping. But not being able to share what I’m thinking anymore was a hell of a whiplash
@foo@actuallyautistic Yep, got that feeling, too. I once got blocked for asking a question :blobcateyes: "If you don't get what I'm saying this probably isn't for you!" Sorry for asking :doge:
Oh, nearly forgot: This is sooo true and you are very awesome! 😄
@foo@actuallyautistic the problem for me is usually when someone adult dx decides that being autistic gives them authority to pass judgement on people diagnosed as children AND assumes that because they are autistic they have the lived experience to UNDERSTAND whatever other auts are going through.
Most of the autistic population online has made it clear they don't actually see themselves as not being entitled to use abjsive tactics to "correct" behavior that makes them uncomfortable
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