@actuallyautistic i keep seeing here ocd or "extremely organised" as a definitely autistic trait, while messy being assigned to adhd and i'm (adult diagnosed) living with a diagnosed in a childhood person and we're messy as hell, especially in combination while neither of us suspect adhd and it's just very annoying to have it as a given here, does anyone share this even?
@benetnasch@actuallyautistic
So I was told stuff like I discribed is most likely just a matter of autistic appreciation of structure. Also other things I do that are a bit over the edge prevention measures for topics I have anxiety on are too reasonable to be classified as OCD.
Which does not make it easier, because reasonable actions might actually help minimizing risks, but that doesn't mean the anxiety is gone.
question to @actuallyautistic
depressed ones, is the narrative "what a useless dumb shit you are, freak that shouldn't have been born" ever go away? i recently discovered that apparently it's not a thing always in a background for other humans. it seems to be forgotten when i hyperfocus on some random bullshit that brings joy, but what about you?
@nddev@actuallyautistic it's hard to separate, true. part of it being not well... not always able to earn money, i've had soul wrenching jobs with good salaries but generally am staying commercially useless. which could absolutely be autistic part.
@nddev@lexx3000@tine_schreibt@actuallyautistic I actually learned a technique in gestalt therapy training that you’ve just reminded me of. Giving the things inside of us that are speaking up but generally don’t serve us anymore a new job. Making friends with it, and nudging it into a position where it’s energy can be used for better things/thoughts/etc. Thank you for that reminder.