If you’re refusing to date someone solely because they’re trans, then yeah it kinda is. Things like genital preference, the person “passing”, etc are preferences you’re certainly allowed to have, but are going to apply on a case by case basis. If you’re otherwise attracted to someone and the only deal breaker is the fact that they’re trans, that’s by definition a prejudice against trans people.
Edit: listen nobody is forcing yall to date a trans person. What I’m saying is that most valid hang ups someone might have don’t apply to every trans person, there’s gonna be trans people with the junk/body type/voice/whatever else that you’re into. So refusing to date someone just because they’re trans is the prejudiced part, not whatever personal preference you have that’s gonna stop you from dating some or most trans folks.
Pansexuality is broader than bisexuality, and people who identify as pansexual may be attracted to people of all genders. Bisexuality is the attraction to two or more genders, but not necessarily all.
The terms broadly overlap, but the distinction matters to some people and that’s okay.
Of course lemmy.world went down right as I finished writing my response and made me lose everything lmao
Anyhow none of what you said contradicts the point I’m trying to make, which I’ve evidently failed miserably at making even with an edit.
I’m not saying you have to go out and get a trans girlfriend. What I’m trying to get at is that, as you noted, it’s possible for a trans woman to meet the requirements a cishet man might have for traits such as genitals, personality, voice, height, body type, etc. This hypothetical cishet dude doesn’t have to be attracted to every trans woman, just like how it would be insane if he was attracted to every cis woman. But if that perfect trans woman showed up, who meets every possible requirement for the guy, and he still doesn’t want to date her because she’s trans, then that is prejudice against trans people.
There’s probably going to still be a disconnect on this despite my best efforts and this whole thing will probably get slammed with downvotes too. I’m rephrasing an argument based off of what I mostly remember saying in my original reply to this before world shit the bed, and plus this is a conversation about LGBT people happening in a comment section full of (presumably) cishet people. Getting within 1000 yards of the possibility that they aren’t perfect allies with absolutely no internalized bias or prejudice is going to get people defensive. But hell, I’m several letters in LGBT and I’ve got internalized homophobia and transphobia that I’m trying to sort out, the point I’m trying to make here wasn’t an easy one for me to consider either when it was said by someone way smarter than me.
Hello, other trans person here questioning what part of my statement gave you the impression that I’m saying you have control over who you’re attracted to. The entire idea I’ve said several times now is that if your attraction to someone is only overridden by the fact that they’re trans rather than any actual physical or emotional traits they have, then at that point there’s nothing to do with your sexual, emotional, or physical attraction to someone and just boils down to a prejudice against trans people. Any trait that might actually determine someone’s attraction towards a person is not a single shared trait that all of us have.
If you think that a relationship is the line where that prejudice is considered okay, that’s for you to decide and I wont stop you. Everyone is going to have prejudices regarding potential partners, I’m married but personally wouldn’t have dated someone with even vaguely conservative views for instance. But whether it makes cis people uncomfortable or not, it is prejudiced to ignore all attraction towards us just because we’re trans and for no other reason.
Evidently there’s something wrong with my word choice of “prejudice” because that word choice really seems to be the part everyone’s getting pissed over. Do you have any suggestion for a more appropriate word choice because you seem to at least kinda get what I’m trying to say.
Two or more. If you’re really dead set on saying bisexuality is inherently sexist or transphobic, that’s your own thing to deal with. I don’t get the sense that this is in good faith.
That’s certainly an unpopular opinion. I love rereading Calvin and Hobbes strips. Maybe it’s a heaping portion of nostalgia goggles bringing me back to being a little kid learning how to read via comics, but I find all the newspaper strips I grew up with really comforting, none more so than C&H
It’s subtle only in the sense that most regular people don’t know what the black sun is. My wife got me this keychain that had some pagan symbols on it with a black sun snuck in as well, she had no idea until I told her.
It’s specifically because of something written in the forward. I don’t remember the exact quote now, but it got pointed out that he doesn’t put villains in his stories, to which he replies that he learned that in the war. It flipped a switch in teenage me’s brain and I started forming my own opinions after that.
I think it’s difficult for most comedy to stand the test of time(not all obviously). I went back and watched Bo Burnham’s older work after watching Inside. At the time, that stuff was hilarious, but now it makes me cringe hard.
Cruelty Squad is such a bizarre beast. It’s an ugly, unpleasant, and overstimulating game that feels hostile to somebody trying to play it. And despite that, it lives in the back of my head as one of the most unique gaming experiences I’ve had in ages.
The game fucking rules. 10/10 I am a flesh automaton animated by neurotransmitters
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Wife and I have been working our way through Sons Of The Forest while we wait for Baldurs Gate, I’m hoping to get some time to myself soon so I can keep playing Metal Gear V
I remember losing so much sleep when I first played Minecraft a decade ago, it’s one of those games that I wish I could experience for the first time again.
Navigating the mountains without BB is definitely stressful, but as long as you keep an eye on the weather, you should be good. I think I only had a run in with BTs once. You’re on the tail end of the story, have fun and keep on keeping on. 👍
It took me a few tries to get into Death Stranding, but its my favorite game now.
For me, I enjoyed being able to take in the environment and experience a simulation of hiking. The opening hours are weird and a bit rough and bare bones compared to later on when you get more freedom and toys to play with, but I’m of the opinion that it’s kinda necessary. The first leg of the game distills down a lot of the core gameplay loop to make sure you’ll be able to vibe with how slow and different the game is. You really have to be down to play a walking simulator in the most literal sense of the term.
The story is bizarre and confusing and refuses to explain itself properly. But if you can power through things not making any sense for a while, you get this really heartfelt story about forming connections to other people in the face of hardship. That said, the first 2 hours of the game are 75% cutscenes, which sucks for hooking a new player. (This was my first Kojima game and I’ve since learned that it’s peak Kojima weirdness and self indulgence)
Overall it’s not a game that everyone is going to enjoy, I dont tend to recommend it to people. But if you’re able to vibe with what the game is going for, you’re in for a treat.
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I made my guardian look like Jesus and it makes scenes with him the funniest things in the world (lemmy.world)
That line hits a lot differently when it’s being said by Jesus Christ wearing a suit of armor.
Calvin and Hobbes is not good.
Calvin and Hobbes is not good....
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Rule (lemmy.world)
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“Calling DeSantis a fascist isn’t hyperbole, it’s defining what he is.”
Is there a movie or show that changed how you see something?
I have never looked at the news the same way after watching Nightcrawler.
Opinions: What is a movie you genuinely like, that is rated below 60% on rotten tomatoes? (xkcd.com)
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What are the best Independent Studios in your opinion
In light of Microsoft closing in on the Activision acquisition, I feel is apt to highlight some of your favorite independent studios
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The Weekly 'What are you playing?' Discussion - 20-07-2023 (lemmy.world)
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