December 12th is always an emotional day for me. It's my late wife Barbara's birthday, and the #grief wells up and spills out.
Today was absolutely just such a day. And to top it off, my roommate went off on a rant about how my depth of feeling on that topic is wrong and unhealthy. Not her words. I cleaned it up.
I had a huge meltdown as a result. Now I'm exhausted, and in pain. I'm turning in for tonight. I hope.
The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss
A renowned grief expert and neuroscientist shares groundbreaking discoveries about what happens in our brain when we grieve, providing a new paradigm for understanding love, loss, and learning.
In 45 BCE, the Roman statesman Cicero fell to pieces when his beloved daughter, Tullia, died from complications of childbirth. But from the depths of despair, Cicero fought his way back. Drawing on Greek philosophy and Roman history, Cicero convinced himself that death and loss are part of life, and that if others have survived them, we can, too; resilience, endurance, and fortitude are the way forward.
Any ideas? I’m looking for articles, maybe even research, on the impact on grief when family members or friends die overseas & you can’t really help from Australia (or wherever you live). For instance, war zones, natural disasters, human-made disasters & the like. I can’t find anything. 🤞#grief#bereavement#mourning
"A renowned grief expert and neuroscientist shares groundbreaking discoveries about what happens in our brain when we grieve, providing a new paradigm for understanding love, loss, and learning."
(This will be a very long list by the end of the year if I keep it up. We'll see.)
Your statements are basically done after the first few deadlines. I always thought I'd customize extensively for each school.
Nope.
On a week like this (with so many apps due Sep 15), you just don't have time. You have to trust that you already put in the work with your base template. It's a mental shift from fellowship apps.
Jobs you don't get. Potential futures that disappear. Relationships that change or become strained during this time.
And maybe you don't let yourself fully process the grief yet, because there's no time before the next application, interview, or talk... but I can see how a recovery period will be crucial, no matter the outcome.
If you are looking for a very sweet MG read, you should check Calvin and the Sugar Apples. Focusing on eleven-year-old Amelia and the loss of her best friend Calvin, a twenty-one-year-old chinchilla, this novel is beautifully written and illustrated.
Emotional,beautiful and poetic story about a song that transcended decades. Written by a wife’s late husband, the song is later shared by a musician. It is a sad, but hopeful story about love, loss, and how memories and creations continue to live, even after the loved one is gone.
A very impressive elegy printed as a leporello.
It made me realize a thing or two about mourning and about translating (and how those are more interrelated than I had previously thought). Here's how: https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/5007397334
How many times have you gone home and wept, for all the reasons teachers weep? Grief is the undiscovered country of education, but it doesn't have to be. Listen and discover its richness with us.