Shouting at children can be as damaging as physical or sexual abuse, study says

Parents who shout at their children or call them “stupid” are leaving their offspring at greater risk of self-harm, drug use and ending up in jail, new research claims.

Talking harshly to children should be recognised as a form of abuse because of the huge damage it does, experts say.

The authors of a new study into such behaviour say “adult-to-child perpetration of verbal abuse … is characterised by shouting, yelling, denigrating the child, and verbal threats”.

“These types of adult actions can be as damaging to a child’s development as other currently recognised and forensically established subtypes of mistreatment such as childhood physical and sexual abuse,” the academics say in their paper in the journal Child Abuse & Neglect.

Squid,

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    IdleSheep,
    @IdleSheep@lemmy.blahaj.zone avatar

    A stern talking to and yelling are different I feel like. This study is referring to basically insulting and scaring the child.

    Tofushopdriftin,

    Are we just now putting this together?

    Colorcodedresistor,

    can be!? LOL my mother did all three, yelled, beat and psychologically ran me into corners and up walls. Hahahaha

    Can

    You guys hearing this? Can be damaging L O L

    😢

    PhlubbaDubba,

    My dad and I have had our ups and downs but I can say beyond a shadow of a doubt that the least productive we’ve been with each other is when he got too frustrated and yelled at me about whatever.

    I’d instantly go from frustrated but still trying to calmly explain my side of things to “I DON’T KNOW WHO THE FUCK YOU THINK YOU ARE SON BUT HOW ABOUT YOU SHUTCHO MOUTH AND KEEP IT CLOSED UNTIL THE MAN WHO RAISED ME IS BACK AGAIN‽”

    Kirkkh,

    Who knew it’s wrong to scream at kids.

    randalthor17,

    Man this makes me glad that i have good parents

    Franzia,

    I really hate the idea of parents. Like two people raise you and are responsible for you? Reading Brave New World as a kid, it took me until the very end to understand it as dystopian. I thought the idea of your parents being barely a part of the equation, just absent minded and high all the time? Great. Trusting school to raise you entirely using weird subliminal studying methods was actually an improvement. It is dystopian, but yeah I basically think this idea of an atomic family unit to be the most bizarre and selfish, anti-social bullshit. My parents didn’t let me know my relatives, were able to choose who I was friends with, where I was able to go. And all the while I’m reliant on them to not be kidnapped or hate crimed and to support my goals rather than force me to sit at home. The abuse just continues on and on. I will never be okay, I can only hope to make some cool art before I die. But that start of life decides for you whether you will be important or not.

    barsoap,

    I can only hope to make some cool art before I die

    That, friend, is more than most people could hope to dream of. And I don’t mean that in the “poor kid in Rwanda” way. Let the wound do the talking there’s medicine there, not just for you.

    urist,
    @urist@lemmy.blahaj.zone avatar

    hugs

    It’s terribly lonely, isn’t it? And so hard to explain to other people.

    I remember when I was allowed to go to school (kindergarten). I was so excited to finally have friends and thought everyone was automatically my friend. That’s how it worked on TV, all the kids were friends with each other on the tv shows. Turns out that’s not how it works, and everyone had friends already from preschool. I was a permanent outsider from that point on, bullied. Struggled to make friends. When I finally did, we moved.

    Nobody cared if I was lonely, only if my grades were good (and they were perfect), and the floors were mopped and the knickknacks were dusted weekly. Anything less was an hour long screaming session.

    Nobody understands why I don’t want children. How do you raise children without a family?

    mcmoor,

    Childhood is basically an Achilles heel for every single libertarian concept, and one which authoritarians exploit every single time. Until every single human is born with complete knowledge and faculty, this weakness will always prevent full individualistic freedom.

    MaxVoltage,

    lets start arresting people for (speaking)

    Psychology graduate students are so desperate to make up ideas to get their PhD. not surprised if every one of these authors is a right wing nepotism baby

    Ulrich_the_Old,

    I am 70 the words uttered by my father when I was 5 still ring in my ears. He said “I wish you had never been born”.

    Shush,

    I am 32. I love my dad, he did his best. He was a good dad.

    But I will probably never be able to forgive him for the times he shouted and yelled at me when I wasn’t a good kid. He went into fits of rage over mundane things like homework and failing school. I remember everything he said in those fits of rage. Every instance of it. And I definitely remember feeling terrified.

    And will remember it until the day I die.

    Even at 70 years old.

    Raine_Wolf,

    This makes me sad tbh. I’m 21, and get flashbacks of my dad yelling at me, especially when someone yells at me irl. I was scared that I’d spend my life trying to get rid of them… now I wonder if that’s even possible

    Shush,

    You might be able to do it if you’ll get closure by talking to your dad about it.

    My dad is the type that is never wrong, never does anything bad, and therefore never apologizes. I brought this up a few times and he always say I exagerrate or those instances never happened. He will never own up to it.

    Raine_Wolf,

    Unfortunately, both my parents are like that too. I went no contact for that reason, actually.

    angrystego,

    It is possible to get closure anyway, eg. by not doing the same mistake yourself or by surrouding yourself with healthy relationships and realizing your parent is just a human being full of faults and you’re your own person. I have examples around me of people who were able to get over it finally and also of people who carried it with them their whole life (and I don’t blame them). The sad thing is how many people have such burden in the first place.

    OldQWERTYbastard,

    I only learned that I was raised by a major league narcissist with anger management problems after I met my wife. She has training in clinical counseling and helped me realize that soooo much of my personality and habits can be traced back to my upbringing. Turns out my grandfather treated him the same way.

    Generational trauma is a cruel monster that many of us never learn about. That’s a damn shame too.

    MaxVoltage,

    just remember who you are

    FlyingSquid,
    @FlyingSquid@lemmy.world avatar

    I loved my dad, but he would yell really angrily when he got mad at me and it would terrify me to the point where I would beg him not to hit me (he never hit me). I turned out mostly okay, but I can see how that could really screw someone up.

    Shush,

    I feel you man. I am in the same boat as you.

    Lurkerloo,

    Same, but I actually got hit sometimes.

    Honytawk,

    Maybe shouting at children all the time until they leave home is about the same as them getting sexually abused once.

    But they aren’t equivalent in the slightest when compared in the same quantities.

    MaxVoltage,

    yea if my dad only yelled and never hit me

    well i wouldnt like hitting people idk

    but seriously Any communication is better than cell phone babies

    i wish dad yelled insults at me

    he never calls now, i should call him

    be a better man

    sorry tired

    petersr,

    Read the title as “shooting” and thought “another American post…”

    Agent641,

    Me too! I was like “Did we expect the kid to just shrug off the bullets?”

    fosforus, (edited )

    This is correlation study, and we all know what that means, right? Correlations are significant results certainly, but not at all conclusive.

    barsoap,

    This is psychology/sociology, not MINT. If you start to question whether childhood experience is a valid causal vector to influence adult behaviour you should become a philosopher while the rest of the world happily assumes causation.

    Also if you had actually glanced at the study you’d have seen that it’s a systematic review. Skimming over it what it’s saying is “there’s a ton of unorganised data out there that nonetheless shows a clear and distinct pattern we should study the topic for its own sake”.

    jcit878,

    I got shouted at and called stupid all the time, but i feel being belted with sticks for minor things was probably what left more of a mark (mentally) to be honest

    MaxVoltage,

    yea but the goal is to publish papers not due science

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