I have a similar story where I originally went with FMHY up until it went down. I decided to go with dbzer0 because they have a similar stance for discussing piracy.
That said, as far as I know, they have the same rule as /r/piracy when it comes to requesting or linking to content which I don’t personally like. I enjoyed helping people find music and TV shows on FMHY. They also want to keep things SFW which I don’t personally have strong feelings about one way or the other but I’d prefer an instance with an indifferent approach.