@VeeRat@actuallyautistic We each need to make the decision about who to reveal ourselves to. We can trust ourselves to know what’s the best choice at the time.
I’m in my 60s and my mom in her 80s. Is she ND? Absolutely. But, like your mom, she has no context. It would only cause pain for her and me.
I absolutely will not reveal to my sisters - for them it would be more ammunition for cruelty.
I’ve told only a few friends who I trust.