Elder Punk. Cancer survivor. Zero Covid. Autistic & Autigender. she/they
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I told my mother that I am Autistic. I am in my 50s, she is in her 70s. I had not wanted to talk about it with her for a very long time now, because she tends to believe that anything like that is caused by her being a "bad mother"; she bought into that hype from a long time ago, and never let it go.
I got the expected response. She said that she doesn't think I'm Autistic, because she bases her knowledge of Autism on the people who make the news due to NT people thinking they are gifted or strange, and on movie characters like Rain Man. She said it's ok that I investigate Autism "if it makes you feel better". Not that I was asking her permission.
Then when I was listing behaviors of mine that I attribute to Autism, she said, "I do those things too." I said, "yeah, it is hereditary...". But she would never investigate it about herself. She could never accept the label for herself, or for me.
I don't know why I try. I guess I do find some peace with myself having told her, because I felt bad talking about it so much with other family members, without her knowing. I still don't feel the need to talk with her about my cPTSD from childhood; I know I won't get a good response to that.
I'm so grateful for everyone here who suggested books on Autism by Devon Price PhD. They have helped me immensely. Thank you all.
The more I learn about Autism, the more I am learning about myself, and the more I am feeling comfortable with myself. It's a great feeling.
I wish I'd had better support for Autism much earlier in life. But I'm glad to be discovering it now.
I am feeling called out by the top half of this @actuallyautistic
We have all heard the phrase: "You are either with us, or against us".
I've observed for many people, given that choice, they will not want to be perceived as against anyone so will claim they are "with".
I don't believe very many real-world scenarios are binary, so I see this as a logical fallacy https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/black-or-white .
If forced into that binary, I will always say "against" given I reject the question itself.
Is that an #Autism thing, or is that just me?
Study linking poor clearance of BPA with Autism and ADHD. They are not claiming that this is a cause, though there is some speculation in this article.
“The research found that kids with ASD and ADHD couldn't clear out BPA and another similar compound called Diethylhexyl Phthalate (DEHP) with as much efficiency as other kids, potentially leading to longer exposure to their toxic effects.”
don't move my stuff
Expectation that my things will remain where I keep them.
Does anyone else have a tendency to get really frustrated and upset when something you keep in a certain location is moved randomly by someone else? And you look everywhere, and can't find it? And the more you look, and as you realize it's not turning up, and you just can't find it, a feeling of utter calamity and dismay, of catastrophic sense of "the universe is no longer the same" sets in.
I really can go into a highly upset state of mind. Some would no doubt call this a meltdown.