AutisticAdam,
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When you’re Autistic, you get used to no one meeting your needs, through malice, pure ignorance, or coincidence.

So you learn to meet your own needs instead.

And people call you “Self-Obsessed” for it.

@actuallyautistic

ashleyspencer,
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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic I’ve lived my life like this. Been alone my whole life and don’t know any different. My cat Nikita has been my entire world for over 10 years, and she bonded to me instead of another cat so it’s mutual.

I got called selfish a lot for prioritizing my own needs above past relationships, but that may be because of the whole aromantic thing and never being totally into them.

I like my life the way it is though. It’s a happy life.

AutisticAdam,
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@ashleyspencer @actuallyautistic

Pleased for you.

I don't want to be on my own forever but right now I'm ok with it.

ashleyspencer,
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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic I have no idea what it’s like to live with someone I love, build a life together, and all that. I’ve made peace with the fact I’ll probably never know, but it’s okay.

I’ve had plenty of opportunities in the past to settle down but said no to all of it.

AutisticAdam,
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@ashleyspencer @actuallyautistic

I have never lived with someone I love ethier.

I don't agree with that though, there is someone for everyone. It's just about finding the right one, the perfect fit for how you are. Don't settle for anything else. The right one will come along.

I say this as I tell myself this too 😄

ashleyspencer,
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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic They’d have to also be an entrepreneur and understand that life. Hard to find.

One of my most recent relationships had issues with how much I was working on my business and not paying enough attention to her. She was also autistic.

Maybe one day when I’m living the life and future I’m working so hard now to build, maybe settling down will be an option then.

AutisticAdam,
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@ashleyspencer @actuallyautistic

I personally don't think it matters what you do in life, long as you fit and understand each others needs.
But this is just my view.

Yeah I remember you tooting about that. Try to look at it as "that person's loss, not yours"

All things work out in the end.

I wish you well for the day ahead Ashley 🙂

fredds,
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@AutisticAdam @ashleyspencer @actuallyautistic I've been living with someone I love (or, at least I think this is what we call love) for ten years. It's.... really hard, and, after ten years trying to act "normal", I think I'll have to live on my own again, for my own personal mental health.

FN50,
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@ashleyspencer @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic

Similar. Not aro, but demi. I can take it or leave it. I think I have the right to be a little selfish. Not that I consider having my needs met selfish, but a lot of people in my past have treated it that way.

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