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kkffoo, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic do any of my autistic co-groupies have any tips for not losing weight over December / Christmas? The extra stress makes it harder to eat good portions for regular meals and my usual snack routine gets a knock too. I did manage to grab a small bowl of full fat ice-cream last night, which is not my usual supper, but seemed a reasonable compromise. Any other ideas?

roknrol,
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@kkffoo @actuallyautistic Not in any healthy ways. Put in more calories than you burn...for me that means unhealthy junk that after a short time makes me feel like shit.

I check my weight every morning so i know how i should treat my days.

arcana, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

part of my unmasking has been letting go of the need for full sentences and/or paragraphs. CWs and tone tags have been like a "starter kit." so now sometimes if i can't find the right way to word something in a sentence, i will seriously just format it like metadata.

warning:
tone:
context:

etc xD

roknrol,
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@arcana @actuallyautistic Smart!

I tend to overuse parentheticals and emphasis marks..../sarc tags have been helpful too.

I may use your idea more...that's a good one.

roknrol,
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@Susan60 @arcana @actuallyautistic The value of an editor. It's another Amazon casualty.

roknrol,
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@Susan60 @arcana @actuallyautistic Everyone* is convinced (myself included) that they can do everything themselves. We're not ALL wrong, but most of us are.

*literally everyone, but i'm saying that figuratively.

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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Do my comrades have a journaling practice?

What's it look like?

@actuallyautistic

roknrol,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic Anything that I don't want other people to know, I do not write down. Ever.

The closest I get to journaling is whatever you call whatever it is that I do here.

18+ f1337, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic
Question for those for whom suicidal ideation, passive or active, is common:

Imagine yourself in a stable/good place, with minimal ideation, you feel safe. And then you are confronted with a possible terminal illness diagnosis. Do you find yourself feeling a bit…relieved at the possibility? Almost as if “it’s about time”?

Or am I just morbidly fatalistic? 😝

roknrol,
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@f1337 @actuallyautistic yes, categorically so. Suicide is scary, but if it's out of my hands who am i to complain?

poloniousmonk, to actuallyautistic
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@autisticadvocacy @autistic[email protected] @actuallyautistic

I've taken to describing myself as someone who talks like an asshole all the time, but my actions are always honorable.

Does this resonate with anyone here?

roknrol,
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@poloniousmonk @autisticadvocacy @autistic[email protected] @actuallyautistic I consider myself a good and decent person. Nowhere on the packaging does it say "nice". I do not consider those states to be contradictory.

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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Do you use the word "Neurodivergent"?

Why or why not?

Do you think it's ableist?

If you don't use it, what word do you use?

#ActuallyAutistic #AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

roknrol,
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@punishmenthurts @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic I have been kind of struggling with this too. I dont think that i like the notion of my personality or approach to life being considered a 'disability', but i can't dispute that i seem divergent from what i would consider 'normal' people. That both of those opinions seem to marry up pretty closely with how NT's view things, i kind of just mentally throw my hands up with an exasperated 'whatever'.

roknrol,
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@punishmenthurts @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic And you're absolutely correct, of course. Still, habitual thinking is habitual, and i'm old lol.

It certainly doesnt seem that allistic thinking conveys any real evolutionary benefit.

roknrol,
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@punishmenthurts @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic I think evolution requires a spectrum, and depending on what is needed and when largely determines survival.

It's the closest thing to blind chance that i can think of.

Im not sure if this thought strays too far from the conversation...sorry lol

JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
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I rarely ever address anyone by name. There are people I've known for decades whose names I've never even used when addressing them directly.

Is that an #Autism thing?

#ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

roknrol,
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@IPmonger @actuallyautistic @JeremyMallin I use people's names when I first meet them because it goes a fair way toward not forgetting their name later.

Generally though, I don't socialize. There are maybe a half-dozen people that I engage with regularly, usually on the phone, and since there's only one other person on the call names aren't really necessary.

roknrol,
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@IPmonger @JeremyMallin @actuallyautistic I dont usually interact if it's optional lol 😆

Im more inclined to use a person's name when i first meet them than at any other time.

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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Do my comrades find themselves having deep & significant empathy for others in general, but much less for those closest to them?

If so, you are not alone.

Why do we think this is?

@actuallyautistic

roknrol,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic At times my empathy button seems broken; I will approach many emotionally charged events with clinical detachment, always expecting that I can just react emotionally "later", but I never seem to get around to that point.

There are other times, though, that I can't handle. Like, I can watch horror movies and whatever entrails appear on screen, but watching a surgical show or footage of an accident it turns my stomach.

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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What’s been the most important thing you’ve learned about yourself during your journey?

@actuallyautistic

roknrol,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic That fitting in is a NT requirement and one that doesn't have to apply to me.

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