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Uniflame

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#ADHD and #actuallyAutistic woman. Is artsy! Loves: animals, food, Square-Enix, Geeky Stuff, cute stuff. Twitch #emote artist

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theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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Do my comrades have a journaling practice?

What's it look like?

@actuallyautistic

Uniflame,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic it looks like a ton of abandoned notebooks. I learned not to buy anymore notebooks 😂

AutisticAdam, to actuallyautistic
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My autistic brain’s aversion to surprises extends to gifts. I’m grateful when people think of me and want to buy me gifts, but 99% of the time I’d rather they didn’t. Surprise gifts or gifts in general
can carry great expectations and generally bring me so much stress that I derive little joy from them.

Even if its something I really like. Its the same when buying gifts for others too, I don't like it. I'm not being "tight with money" or lazy.

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic

Uniflame,
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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic I personally love gifts from people I know. Usually I make lists around my birthday and xmas. I usually don’t like it as much when they go off script unless they know me really well

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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How do my comrades feel about haircuts?

@actuallyautistic

Uniflame,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic I cut my own bangs, so I don’t have to go that often 😂

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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If any of my comrades used to read LOTS of books every year and LOVED it, but can no longer do it, know that it isn’t your fault.

This is one of the side effects of autistic burnout. You’re not alone.

@actuallyautistic

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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic I feel this! I was a really fast reader too. But after a severe autistic burnout I can’t really read books anymore. Luckily I gained the ability to listen to audiobooks

JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
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Are all Autistics autodidacts? Is that just a thing we do?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic
#ActuallyAutistics

Uniflame,
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@JeremyMallin @actuallyautistic well, I am. But not sure if it’s my ADHD or autism that’s responsible 🤷‍♀️

AutisticAdam, to actuallyautistic
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Autistic tax:

  • All the clothes and foods you buy that don’t meet your sensory needs and can't be returned or that you can't return.

  • The costly taxis you take because public transport is too overwhelming.

  • All the necessary sensory tools you must buy to regulate your sensory experience - earplugs, stim toys, sunglasses.

List yours below.

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic

Uniflame,
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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic noise canceling headphones are so expensive.

Uniflame,
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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic oh and the things I need to sleep. Cause just going to sleep just isn’t an option. Comfort blankets, plushies, fairy lights etc

AutisticAdam, to actuallyautistic
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Small talk can be bad for a lot of autistic people because:

It follows rules we don't understand - for example how much information is allowed and what I'd deemed 'too much.'

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic

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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic if you ask me: how are you? Be prepared for an honest answer 😂

Uniflame,
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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic I mean, I can if I’m actually feeling fine. But I’m not going to lie about it. I’ve been better or so so are common responses for me.

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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic well, then they shouldn’t have asked 😂 In all seriousness: I refuse any longer to mask all the time. Only in formal situations I’ll make the effort. But honestly, I know people often find me weird already 😂

Uniflame,
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@dorgaldir @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic yeah I also find this to be true. But you have to be lucky to be able to disclose this. Not everyone can. All though I think it’s better for all parties involved if we can

Uniflame,
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@neuralex @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic yes. But there’s a difference between being honest and infodumping. I try to keep it short too. For example: could be better. Or I had a really nice weekend.

Uniflame,
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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic well you got me there 😁

Uniflame,
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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic the discussion that has formed here illustrates already how hard it is for us 😂

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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic I don’t really like the taste unless it’s a really sweet drink. So I enjoy the occasional cocktail but that’s it really. Tbh, I even enjoy mocktails more.

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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic just now to my new neighbors who were prepping to paint the outside of the house: when are you moving in? We have lived here since March. I think growing a second head would have been less embarrassing 😳

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@ScottSoCal @foo @actuallyautistic I cut my own bangs so I only have to go twice a year

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@JeremyMallin @actuallyautistic I think so! I do it too.

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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic for sure. I can’t count the times I have been told as a teen that I looked cranky, angry or should smile. Meanwhile I was just daydreaming

Uniflame,
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@grammaticus @servelan @Carex @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic being forced to mask is indeed very exhausting. And we often don’t find out what masking even is until well in adulthood

Uniflame,
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@dukeoffail @servelan @Carex @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic I love guided meditations. But it does depend on the tone of the voice and the pace. I should meditate more often, but I keep forgetting 😅

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