johnnyprofane1, to actuallyadhd
@johnnyprofane1@neurodifferent.me avatar

Do any of my or friends have the technical skills to help me with a project?

@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd @btaroli

I've tried working any number of AutoGPT-like apps, Code Interpreter etc ... but can't get anywhere with my skills...

I'd like to create a {Python} app that I could run that asked for a news search term and time period and gave me links and summaries on a specific topic.

Something like "give me news reports on 'autism and police' in the last 7 days."

This was simple a couple of months ago... but with the restricted web search on most of the platforms, I'm stymied.

I'd use it to create weekly summaries... and for further reading lists on my articles.

For that matter, a separate app (?) could scan an article I've written and suggest related further reading links. Mebbe fund articles on my own site to cross link.

Anybody able to help?

johnnyprofane1, to actuallyautistic
@johnnyprofane1@neurodifferent.me avatar

"Calm down."
🧵

G-d, I hate those words. Always have.

#AutisticParent #AutisticMom #AutisticDad
#AutisticAwareness #AutisticAcceptance
#Autism #ADHD #AuDHD #AutisticAdults #AutisticAlly
#AutisticElder #ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic
@actuallyadhd

I've heard them pretty much every day of my long life.

Delivered in soothing tones...
Helpful tones...
Authoritative...
Anxious...
Angry...
Sometimes accompanied by a slap.

From Parents. Teachers. Priests. Playmates. Lovers. Doctors. Therapists... Each one demanding one thing of me.

👉Control over THEIR own feelings.

By demanding... control of mine.

WHO needs control when I'm sad?
Angry?
Intense?
Passionate?
Proud?
Informative...
Joyful...
or...
Suicidal?

You folks do.

I'm feeling what I'm feeling. And expressing it in ways that are not only the most natural to me... but also the most appropriate...

To the neurology I was born with.

You may not like it.
In the park.
In the grocery store.
In front of strangers.
In front of Aunt Mary.
In 2nd grade.
👇👇👇

With my office door open.
In your waiting room.
On our 3rd date.
In your house...
In your life.

There's a whole wing of autism deniers masquerading as scholars who say we autistics lack a "theory of mind."

Like adult autistics don't deal with typical human minds
👉 24 / 7 / 365.25 ... 👈

YOUR problem with MY behavior is easier to understand than your whole "theory of mind," "behavioral analysis" crap.

I don't get how YOU think or feel.
You don't get how * I * think or feel...
And we rub each other the wrong way. Just like cats and dogs.

👉THIS cat has a theory of your mind. It's simple.

You don't acknowledge what you think or feel.
Not in public.
Lots of times not even to yourself.

S'why y'all drive me crazy.

Why did parents, teachers, "helping" pros, "friends" tell me to calm down?

Not to soothe my distress. To soothe THEIR distress.

👉 Shame?
Not fun to feel ashamed... of your child.

👉 Fear?
Scary when everybody's looking at you.
And you think it's not even your fault.

👉 Anger?
It's frustrating... when you have no control.
Like... when I don't do what you want me to. Fast enuff.

👉 Soothing?
Of course, YOU need soothing...

Every time someone else's pain...
Or bad luck...
Or death...
Reminds you of YOUR danger.

🚨 "Calm down." 🚨

There is never a time that a command...
implying that an autistic person in distress is doing "something wrong"...
helps.

Doesn't matter our age... education... profession... wealth.

And since your "helpful advice" almost certainly inflames their pain... literally adding fuel to the fire in our hearts, minds, and bodies...

You'll NEVER get the outcome you demand... soothing.

You'll just add one more brick to the prison wall of our trauma.

#AskingAutistics

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me avatar

What does the term "Autistic Joy" mean to you?

@actuallyautistic

JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
@JeremyMallin@autistics.life avatar

Is exceptional autobiographical memory common among Autistics?

@actuallyautistic

autism101, to actuallyautistic

Most of the time when asked “How are you doing?” I actually tell them, because I forget I’m supposed to always say, “I’m fine” even if I’m not.

You think as an older adult I would have learned by now…but nope.

Do you?

@actuallyautistic

autism101, to actuallyautistic

I’m barefoot most of the time. If I need more protection I wear my flip flops.

I used to get made fun of in school for wearing them all the time. I can wear socks and shoes but prefer not to.

Does it bother you to wear things on your feet?

@actuallyautistic

autism101, to actuallyautistic

We have been dealing with an insurance company and it has been a complete nightmare.

I’m sure I’m not alone.

image: @pizzacakecomic

@actuallyautistic

autism101, to actuallyautistic

It can be difficult to get through a burnout. I’m in the midst of one now.

Any helpful suggestions that worked for you?

image: @autistic_callum_

@actuallyautistic

autism101, to actuallyautistic

Do you ever feel like an “observer”, like in the TV show Fringe, where life happens to other people and you’re just watching?

Sometimes I feel that way even when I’m participating in an event. I still feel disconnected from it.

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me avatar

How would my #ActuallyAutistic comrades rate their shoe tying skills?

Are you better at tying one foot more than the other?

A particular type of laces?

Or do you got for laceless shoes altogether?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic @actuallyautistics

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me avatar

Do my comrades see themselves fundamentally as happy people who are sometimes/often sad, or sad people who are sometimes/often happy?

@actuallyautistic @actuallyautistics

autism101, to actuallyautistic

Sometimes it is difficult for me not to bring up a special interest in conversation. And I can’t read when others aren’t really interested in hearing about it.

Do you ever do this?

@actuallyautistic

autism101, to actuallyautistic

Have you ever come up with an original way of doing something, only to be told it won’t work?

image: @lifeinanautismworld

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach, to autisticadvocacy
@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me avatar

Do you see Autistic Inertia as a "symptom" of being #ActualyAutistic or is it something that you see as being connected to dysregulation?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic @actuallyautistics @autisticadvocacy

autism101, to actuallyautistic

Are you limited in what foods you can eat? I was considered a picky eater when I was growing up. I still habitually eat the same things over and over again.

@actuallyautistic

autism101, to actuallyautistic

Do you struggle with trying new things to eat?

I do.

@actuallyautistic

autism101, to actuallyautistic

Have you ever been told that you need to “open up more”? I didn’t understand what that meant for a long time. And it never went well for me when I did.

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach, to autisticadvocacy
@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me avatar

Are my #ActuallyAutistic comrades employed/self-employed? If not, do you want to be (and it’s totally legit not to want to work - we are worth more than what we produce)? If you are, is your job your calling? Or a stop gap?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

autism101, to actuallyautistic

Do you use subtitles when they are available? I seem to be using them more often. They really are helpful.

@actuallyautistic

  • All
  • Subscribed
  • Moderated
  • Favorites
  • random
  • uselessserver093
  • Food
  • aaaaaaacccccccce
  • test
  • CafeMeta
  • testmag
  • MUD
  • RhythmGameZone
  • RSS
  • dabs
  • KamenRider
  • TheResearchGuardian
  • KbinCafe
  • Socialism
  • oklahoma
  • SuperSentai
  • feritale
  • All magazines