pick an instance that plans to defederate with them and you’re golden.
That’s not how this works. This is a threat to the concept of the fediverse. It doesn’t matter what instance any of us picks.
Threads already has hundreds of millions of users. Once they activate ActivityPub, they will be hundreds of times larger than the rest of the Fediverse combined. Instantly we will be a tiny minority of the users of this platform. That will give Meta unimaginable influence over this platform and technology.