Lmfao, do as much mental gymnastics as you like, that doesn't change reality, nor make the US defensible in any way shape or form.
says it really doesn’t affect them directly
and that right there is the problem - that you (and your friend) only see an issue once it does.
Maybe try taking your head out of that rotten "standing up for my country" sand and actually try listening more to those already impacted, because I guarantee there are many, they wholeheartedly disagree with you, and it isn't stopping with them.