as my profile states, I’m a triple A threat (agender, aromantic, asexual) and it’s only been recently that I’ve figured out that…genders just aren’t for me.
I like to joke that for me, gender is a prison (but any pronouns are fine) and I’ve seen things like non-binary people saying “she/her but like you’d say about an old car” which is funny to me, but I know it bothers some people, and I respect that. I still struggle myself with saying “guys” a lot, but I hang out with friends younger than me and am trying to use “y’all” more, I’ve never quite grasped using “folks”. I also try using “feminine” and “masculine” instead of “male” and “female” for things that might potentially reference a binary gender. like “masculine pronouns”, for example.
I used to identify as genderfluid, for a long time, but I’ve never dressed in a typical feminine fashion, as an afab person, and while I like some masculine clothing, I really just don’t want to bother trying to tie myself to a particular style. t-shirts and hoodies are great and comfy, thanks.
non-binary means having freedom to breathe, and not be subjected to having to find something I specifically identify with and making it ironclad. my partner is also non-binary, and we’ve been on the journey together, which has been nice, but they more identify with having, what they call, “too much gender”.
It’s a process for everyone, and one that never stops.