I’m not claiming your bad bus experiences aren’t true buses, so that phallacy doesn’t apply in any way I can tell. You described what you said were universal features of bus routes. I pointed out that those are not at all universal. And indeed, you now admit that you yourself have used buses that run frequently, which undermines your original argument, even if they had other flaws in your view.
I’ve never lived in New York but I think there’s still lots of room for improvement even there. But regardless, I’ve used transit that was better and faster than driving many times. So that remains my point, even if you haven’t experienced that.
It sounds like you just don’t like cities or being around too many other people. Which is fine for you but tons of people do or at least it does not bother them. And for those people, buses, when run properly (clean, on time, frequent, with dedicated lanes so they don’t get stuck in traffic, and directly connecting places people need to go) are an excellent way to get around. I’ve even used some buses in rural areas that beat out car travel, though that’s more rare obviously. So yes, it can be done well. Maybe not to your standards of zero wait time ever and zero tolerance for being around other people but most people aren’t that picky.