I think they’re really nice people in general, they just have their own purpose that might not align with everyone.
I prefer to join instances that are more open about accepting “non-perfectly-aligned” people, it’s more up to you to fend for yourself and conflicts can occur ofc, but also more interesting interactions can spur from it.
I do understand what they’re doing and I do respect their choices, it’s just not for me, that’s it.