Serious question; would it help if some of us left beehaw? I’m part of that influx and i first joined lemmy.world. Then i understood that it would be better to spread out among other instances and i created a few more accounts, one of them here on beehaw, because i really like the spirit of it. But if it would help, i would be willing to leave beehaw to help you cope with the load. If enough people would feel the same, it might lighten the load? Another option might be to close the instance for new people, until these issues are solved? I’m sure people would understand the reasoning for doing so?
If you would leave the fediverse, i would not follow. I’m not that big on social media anyway, the fediverse being the only exception.