I don’t have a good answer for your direct question. It sounds to me like you’re primarily in search of someone you can trust. If I were in your situation, I’d try to find a friend or family member that I trusted absolutely, then see if that friend was willing to talk through the psych plan/feelings/treatments. That trusted friend may be able to offer a different view point that will convince you that your psychiatrist’s plan is good/bad for you personally.
I’d do it this way because then I could have 2 separate concerns. 1) I’d need to find a trustworthy friend. 2) I’d need to find a knowledgeable psychiatrist. I think that’s much easier than finding a psychiatrist who can be both.