Then a friend told me he thought maybe I had watched my mother tie my shoes too closely and mimicked her too exactly, so actually I learned to tie them upside down. Because of course my mother was facing me (inward) when she tied them, and I am facing the other direction (outward) when I tie them.
Since then, I have tied them “upside down” to my perspective, and it works! They stay tied. It feels wrong but it works.
@theautisticcoach@actuallyautistic I tie my laces in a completely different way to everyone I know. I cannot understand how others do it and it feels like I am watching a magic trick when I see others tie theirs. People have tried to demonstrate it over the years and I still don’t understand. A couple of years ago I decided there’s little point worrying about it and enjoy the magic.
@theautisticcoach Dyspraxia, yep. what a traumatizing time in my life, parents getting so pushy with my shoe typing failures.
There's flip flops, slip ons, velcro... My parents were obsessed with getting me to tie my shoes, I never got a bow going that didnt fail in an hour walking. I have to tuck the loops and strings into my shoe to help prevent loostening laces, suddenly "shoes untied!" chants a stranger
@theautisticcoach and another toot to mention the bullies laughing at me for leaning over and them laughing at my butt in the air, so I learned to not tie as immediately as I feel the lace undone, I find a quiet corner I can bend over so I dont have a human staring at my rear end as I tie my shoes.
the chant of 'shoes untied' was less embarrassing than the mockery for my big rear in the air.
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