@punishmenthurts@actuallyautistic well, in my case I definitely wouldn't use the word "pristine". But the metaphor my husband used is that it's like if there was a commotion going on at a busy intersection, most people are at street level talking to each other to figure out what's happening, but I'm on a nearby rooftop looking down. So I see what's actually happening more clearly, but it's harder to work out how people are reacting to it so I'm more likely to miss the social fallout