@miaoue@actuallyautistic There's this concept called "move up move up" (used to be called "step up step back" but move up move up doesn't require stepping and so is more inclusive, and I forget what up/up is about, anyway step up step back is easier to search for), here is an example article: https://www.meetingintentions.com/post/step-up-step-back , it is vague but the general idea is if you know you say a lot, give someone else a turn and if you don't, go for it