michaelgemar, 10 months ago

@AutisticAdam @Tooden @actuallyautistic You’d think it’d be a basic rule for everyone.

Jack, 10 months ago

@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic @Lizette603_23
I grew up in a family that wasn’t physical. To this day I don’t like being hugged or touched uninvited. If that bothers someone, that’s their issue. It doesn’t bother me anymore.

Lizette603_23, 10 months ago

@Jack @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic I have several friends who are touch-averse. It's simply an extension of courtesy to me. I don't automatically hug anyone who hasn't said or indicated that they themselves like to be hugged BY ME, not in general. It's very specific for some people, re person or timing or even location. It's not about me it's about someone else. I think that's where a lot of people go wrong, thinking it's personal.

roknrol, 10 months ago

@Lizette603_23 @Jack @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic COVID was a blessing for me in that now I feel absolutely no shame about not shaking hands or hugging. You get a fist-bump or nothing at all.

RolloTreadway, 10 months ago

@roknrol @Lizette603_23 @Jack @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic I cannot stand shaking hands, and I know I'm far from alone in that.

Sure, I recognise that some people do like it. Fine, good for them. But that doesn't give them the right to inflict a handshake on anybody else, and it's absurd to suggest that handshakes are universally correct and consented to.

staidwinnow, 10 months ago

@RolloTreadway @roknrol @Lizette603_23 @Jack @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic

Pretend to sneeze right as someone extends their hand.

Jack, 10 months ago

@staidwinnow @RolloTreadway @roknrol @Lizette603_23 @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic
Just coughing into your hand should be enough.

johnettesnuggs, 10 months ago

@Lizette603_23 @Jack @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic not a hugger or a hand shaker. Covid was strangely a good thing for me in that regard. There are waaaaayyy to many huggers in the South…and have you seen DeathSantis rubbing his nose then shaking hands with people? 🤮🤢

https://youtu.be/ZpOvH44Kfik

Jack, 10 months ago

@johnettesnuggs @Lizette603_23 @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic
Crimes, as if he was disgusting enough already.

johnettesnuggs, 10 months ago

@Jack @Lizette603_23 @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic love the one where he pays the person in the wheelchair on the shoulder…yeah spread that snot around more Deathsantis💀

Jack, 10 months ago

@johnettesnuggs @Lizette603_23 @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic
Man has no class. I’d never wipe my nose on DeSantis. I might scratch my butt then shake his hand, though.

Lizette603_23, 10 months ago

@Jack 😅 @johnettesnuggs @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic

Jack, 10 months ago

@johnettesnuggs @Lizette603_23 @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic
It appears autocorrect isn’t familiar with “cripes”.

johnettesnuggs, 10 months ago

@Jack @Lizette603_23 @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic crimes, cripes…meh my autocorrect still thinks I’m typing “duck”….and it’s never duck.

yourautisticlife, 10 months ago

@johnettesnuggs

Go with the flow. I once told an ex of mine that in a hundred years, our swears are going to be duck, ducking, etc. :madjoy:

@Jack @Lizette603_23 @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic

Lizette603_23, 10 months ago

@johnettesnuggs 😂 @Jack @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic

maryeffrancis, 10 months ago

@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic I have learned from an autistic niece, never to touch anyone without explicit consent. It’s the right thing to do.

cloudguy, 10 months ago

@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic

I have Aspergers and I talked about this exact topic with my now ex wife some years ago.

I struggled with touch so much

Still do

Have a listen tell me if this aligns to your experience

https://podcastaddict.com/not-quite-the-afterglow/episode/124439984 via @PodcastAddict

ScottSoCal, 10 months ago

@cloudguy

On this I must be slightly closer to baseline. I welcome touch, but only from people I know well and trust. That's a very small list. With people I don't know, I can endure it, for a short time. With people I know but don't trust, it's torture.

@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic

cloudguy, 10 months ago

@ScottSoCal @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic I couldn't stand being touched for a very long time

I think my body knew my ex was the wrong person