Heya! I’m Fabienne, a 20 year old trans-girl from Germany. I’ve been questioning my gender identity for two years and came out as trans ~8 months ago. Since then I’ve been struggling through the confusing and understaffed mess that is the german psychiatry system, and have finally managed to land a first appointment that...
Hi y’all, I’ve been (slowly) doing my transition for almost 2 years now and it’s mostly good. I didn’t really have any plan in place when I started, just the vague idea of maybe transitioning. I think I’m running into this problem because of how my brain developed. I’m really bad at planning out past a year because...
There’s not really a guide that can tell you what you want, that’s up to you to decide.
Most of transition is just getting used to and getting better at living your gender, that just comes naturally with time and practice. This includes things like makeup, wardrobe, mannerisms and speech patterns for example.
Obviously, you can focus on one of these things at a time, like practice a lot of makeup or do voice training, and that is a very good start of you are new to it, as this sort of focued approach helps you get the basics down. But once you have that, it is, as i said, mostly a matter of slowly improving over time.
When it comes to medical stuff, there are a lot of options and you can choose which ones, if any, you want to pursue. Options include things like bottom surgery, laser hair removal, breast augmentation, tracheal shave, facial feminization surgery and so on. Now, i, for example, believe that i’ll be perfectly happy with only laser hair removal and bottom surgery, so think of this as more of a pick and choose thing, where you only do the ones that you think you need.
About planning. You said you’ve been at it for almost two years, so you should have a good feeling of how the amount of change you had feels over this period of time. Maybe a good approach would be to think about the next two years: are you happy with the pace that you’ve been going at? Would you like more changes faster, or perhaps even slow down a little? You can balance your transition around what pace feels right for you, again, transition is a highly individual thing that nobody can tell you how to do exactly. Keep in mind that surgeries are hard ro plan ahead because of waiting lists and there’s of course the question of money and/or insurance (i for one have been wanting to do laser hair removal for over half a year now but my insurance is gatekeeping me big time), as well as recovery periods that you have to plan around.
I apologize for the length of this comment but i hope it has been at least somewhat useful :)
like, i contour my nose masterfully, draw graceful curves with my lip liner, look at myself with a sense of pride and accomplishment, then i go out, it hasn’t rained in weeks, my face is flooded with pollen, i start maniacally sneezing and at the end of it i look like shit
With some migrations underway it's natural to use well established community names for discoverability, but it got me thinking how I've always disliked MtF as a community name since it feels dated and "medicalizing"....
the reason why the reddit sub is called that is because it was created years ago, when mtf was the generally accepted terminology. i agree with naming this one something else
I've been on hrt for a couple of months and one of the hardest things I've had to deal with is my light skin + dark body hair. While I'm not out to the world yet it'd be nice to have a smooth chest without short, visible hairs after shaving, which leads to my question. Have any of you dealt with this and found someway to at...
When i epilate my legs i make sure to use body scrub too, that makes it less painful and helps with ingrown hairs (it also makes my legs feel soft and smooth :3)
We might have old people names rn, but, as names usually skip a generation, our names will be cool when we’re old. Trust me it’s gonna work out, i wouldn’t have named myself rachael otherwise lol
Introduction
Heya! I’m Fabienne, a 20 year old trans-girl from Germany. I’ve been questioning my gender identity for two years and came out as trans ~8 months ago. Since then I’ve been struggling through the confusing and understaffed mess that is the german psychiatry system, and have finally managed to land a first appointment that...
In search of a guide
Hi y’all, I’ve been (slowly) doing my transition for almost 2 years now and it’s mostly good. I didn’t really have any plan in place when I started, just the vague idea of maybe transitioning. I think I’m running into this problem because of how my brain developed. I’m really bad at planning out past a year because...
is there a way to blow your nose and not mess up your makeup
like, i contour my nose masterfully, draw graceful curves with my lip liner, look at myself with a sense of pride and accomplishment, then i go out, it hasn’t rained in weeks, my face is flooded with pollen, i start maniacally sneezing and at the end of it i look like shit
MtF as a name feels dated
With some migrations underway it's natural to use well established community names for discoverability, but it got me thinking how I've always disliked MtF as a community name since it feels dated and "medicalizing"....
How do y'all deal with chest hair?
I've been on hrt for a couple of months and one of the hardest things I've had to deal with is my light skin + dark body hair. While I'm not out to the world yet it'd be nice to have a smooth chest without short, visible hairs after shaving, which leads to my question. Have any of you dealt with this and found someway to at...
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