I would suggest looking around for female leaders at your company
Thank you. My friend and boss's boss was the only female leader in my part of the company, and she recently passed away from cancer. It's been hard missing my mentor on top of dealing with this.
I really appreciate the rest of your advice. I don't think my softening behaviors sabotage me, in fact it's when I forget them to focus on the problem that I get in trouble. But maybe I should think more about that.