How to read the news about the head of the Spanish soccer Federation (a man) forcibly kissing a player on the Spanish women's team on the lips, after winning the world cup. You might be thinking:
What's the big deal? They're European! It's their culture!
And she smiled afterwards!
It was just spontaneous! He was overcome with emotion!
She released a statement saying that what's important to focus on is the victory!
Situational power is what men rely on to get away with things like this.
There's a big difference between a greeting kiss on the cheek, and a kiss on the lips. He held her head to remove her chance of turning her face at the last second. Not OK.
Her immediate reaction was a nervous smile and laughter. Very common. Her 5 minutes later reaction was saying that the kiss was unwanted and that she didn't like it. Her 1 hr later "reaction" was the official statement.
Football executives should not place their hands on the sides of the head of their players and forcefully kiss them on the lips in a way that the player cannot possibly give consent, in front of hundreds of millions of people.
I've been patient and assumed good intent with you up to this point, but I'm starting to feel like my good faith was misplaced.
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