Moreover, resistance to this point, insisting you “don’t want to be told” to use something else, is how you betray yourself.
As long as you have this attachment to iPhone, where the very notion of switching to anything else triggers this feeling of annoyance and causes you to pull back reflexively, then you’ve already surrendered.
Consumer lock-in like this is exactly why Apple, Google and Microsoft get away with so much shit. Learn to walk away and try other things. And that goes for everyone, regardless of what hardware or OS you use.