“That’s the way of the world” is usually said by Ayn Rand types who don’t care about anyone else or know how to make things better.
Also, they paint the questioner as some nutter obsessed with finding every single byte about a topic.
And, no one is “stuck” on anything, we notice a defect and want to find a solution.
So think about this. Suppose you’re making a community for, say, Ukrainians who have taken refuge in the USA.
What kind of person shrugs off their need to find each other and says “Suck it up buttercup”. Or makes fun of them for asking.
Yes, there are inconvenient and irritating ways of handling the problem. Shrugging it off just tells me what kind of person you are, but it doesn’t improve anything.
Now, what we could do - crazy, I know, hear me out - is think of a way to conglomerate all the content from diverse instances with different policies into one community where anyone can hear everyone else.
Two kinds of people in this world. The ones who start asking mocking questions, and those who put their heads together.