Now, hold on champ. There’s a couple of points here you’ve conveniently ignored or tweaked to suit your position.
Firstly, I’m not aware of any charter that says I’m obligated in any form to offer the community a say in the decision. Should I have? Morally, there’s obviously an argument for yes. But did I have to, no. The choice was mine, and I made one. It’s your bad luck that I started the community, I suppose.
Secondly, there was no bullying, soft or otherwise. What I said in the pinned post is what I meant: I want us all to come together in one community, and I’m excited by that community being on an instance that is dedicated specifically to tech communities. I’m excited by the idea of the admin of that community being focused on tech communities, and being actively engaged and available to address the needs of that tech community – rather than waiting on the busy admins of an increasingly massive instance.
As for the rest of it, you can debate it all you like. I had a very eloquent and levelheaded message from @ElectroVagrant today that I’m in the process of replying to. I don’t think they’ll like my position, but I’m certainly thankful they came to me, politely and respectfully, rather than lobbing a misguided and factually flawed post into the community.