Thats valid! Not super familiar with Beehaw since they locked applications when I was trying out the fediverse and are defederated with my main instances.
As a member of the queer community, I respect your opinion and honestly kind of wish it were more common. It’s annoying going to a queer event and more than half of the people there are straight. Or having confidently incorrect opinions about lgbtq+ issues and getting mad when they are corrected.
Edit: It would be rad af to see an instance codify the satanic temple’s tenants in their code of conduct. I’m not like a member or anything, but their tenants align strongly with my values so I’d do the same if I were in your position.