Definitely what I am talking about! A lot of trans folk aren’t really all that enamored with the cultural trappings of masculinity or femininity either. It’s just a tool to allow us to be recognized by others and maybe emphasize what we may be lacking. A lot of the late transition folk I know find a solid measure of that euphoria.
I feel like under the hood gender is really interesting and a lot of cis folk just never really think about what it actually means to them? Operating at a deficit or discovering your joy in a non-standard presentation definitely forces you to think about it. I feel like binary trans folk just experience what you feel but under the reverse of circumstance. It’s harder I think for folk who don’t have direct match to empathize with the binary trans experience…
The other side of things seems sort of closer to a non-binary situation but where the rewards are not really strong enough to act. The path of least resistance just works well enough. Holding up a mirror to cis-ness I feel like is something we as a society don’t really do. We skirt it tentitivly when we ask these pop culture questions of "what if you woke up as the opposite sex? " But most people’s take goes no deeper than “lol BOOBS!”