I’d agree with basically all of the things you said.
I’d add just general acceptance or at least trying to remind myself to accept that I need what I need, my brain works the way it does and progress is messy and not linear.
Part of that is also accepting that what works might not work forever. ADHD makes me constantly have to adapt my tools and change what I use to help keep myself organised. It is in my nature to flit from one thing to another and difficult to be consistent but rather than fighting it I think it is OK to go with it. For example, one month the bullet journal is my thing. I will rave about it, research it, proclaim it is saving my life and then all of a sudden it drops off and it is something else that is now the new thing. That’s okay.
Also…trying to train myself out of all or nothing thinking / complete on or off mode. For example, in the past I’d either madly tidy the entire house or gradually let it become worse and worse until it’s horrendous to live in. Actually letting myself mentally off the hook helps me be better at this. For example, I didn’t wash the dishes today? That’s okay, no biggie. I know I can do it… I’ll just do it tomorrow. Previously I’d allow one perceived failure to prompt me to spiral into never doing that thing again.