But let me offer an analogy. Maybe even an allegory, if that's not unduly pretentious.
Someone hurts me. We have a conversation. They agree that they hurt me, and apologise. I forgive them. Sometimes it works out that way, which is great.
Someone else hurts me. We have a conversation. They make it clear that they don't care. In fact, they actually like hurting me because they get a kick out of it and I'm just dirt to them.
I forgive them. Why? They certainly don't deserve it.
Self preservation. Any anger and hatred I feel for them will not hurt them. They may even revel in it.
But it may hurt me. I may become bitter, cynical, or worse. So I forgive them, for my benefit, not theirs.
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