@CynAq@actuallyautistic I do see my priorities as fundamentally different from other people's, but it doesn't always mean my system is right. If that makes sense.
I try to purposely integrate other people's priorities (birthdays! "thinking of you" texts! "good morning" exchanges!) if I care about them, because it makes them feel cared about.
I expect the NT people in my life to accompany me when I do stuff that is important to me (picking up public litter; visiting the same animal sanctuaries over and over), in order to make me feel cared about, so it seems fair.
Do I understand why that stuff is important to them? Nope! But they seem to like it.