ketmorco,
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@anomalon @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic if the goal is to get me to take the trash out, try:

> The trash needs to be taken out. When can you take it out by?

I can answer "yes" to, "will you take the trash out" and sincerely mean it - just on a far different timeline than you were thinking. Or just answer yes because what I'm doing is taking all my mental cycles and "yes" gets you to leave me alone.

"When will you..." Is direct and also gives me the opportunity to decide what works best

gsuberland,
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@ketmorco @anomalon @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic hard deadlines are so useful. "can you take the trash out by [x] please?" gets done. "can you sort the bin out soon?" does not.

ketmorco,
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@gsuberland @anomalon @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic I don't know with purely autism, but adhd me is very able to answer "yes" without registering anything 😅

A question, "when can you take the trash out? I need it done by X" forces my brain to engage.

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