There's no "right words" for how autism works The only commonality I have found with 50 years of living and 20 years of working with it is that the outside world sees you as different, and it is up to them to find and learn their comfort level.
Everyone has their own superpower as well as their own kryptonite That is how a spectrum works.
Unfortunately those with a strict definition, neurotypical and autistic, are those that make lives most difficult