The games that best compare to DF were almost all inspired by DF in the first place, but that said, I usually sell it as "Rimworld, but with hundreds of people, and even more detail".
I used to use Dwarf Therapist all the time, but after a while there was a manager option in DFHack starting in like, .40 or .44, and now in the Steam era (.50) I haven't bothered at all. A lot of things default to "everybody does this", and you can set categories of work and fairly easily pick and choose if everybody does them, or if certain specific people do. When choosing specific people, it shows you who has relevant skills, usually sorted by best at the top. Hope this helps.
ArtieShaw