Figuring out that I’m intersex explained a lot for me and gave me a way to make sense of traumatic things from my pubescent years. Meeting people with similar experiences, even though they are traumatic experiences, was something very joyful for realizing I was not alone nor a weird freak.
Learning the term ipsogender was also a joyful thing for me since gave me a way to articulate that even though I agree with my assigned gender I have a lot of baggage about it and honestly relate more to trans people than to cis people.
(I’m also bi but I figured that out at an early age, my parents were reasonably supportive, and it wasn’t the same kind of galaxybrain process for me as figuring out sex/gender.)