Maybe this has been asked a million times (I didn't find it... links and useful search queries are appreciated). But how should I deal with a toxic friend in a group?...
Since my focus was mainly on group B, apart from his actions on group B, I didn't notice anything and I don't know how to check if he is really ok or not. If I ask him he says yes, and when he says no, he blames his ex and group B.
I don't want to criticize his work on group B, I'm very uncomfortable talking about people that are not present.
I'll think how to do it, but it is hard since there is no "red flag" but a lot of tiny ones.
I think the nontoxic friends just want to keep the group as a whole. We do an activity together that takes place every week. When the group increased we started doing more activities together, playing games, celebrating birthdays, etc.
Until last year we were only 3 friends. In the last 2-3 years I showed up in that activity very rarely (maybe once every 2-3 months) since it became time-consuming and repetitive.
Last year I made new friends that came for some time. They were very interested in that activity, so I invited them, and they became friends with my friends there. Since they had to commute from another city to do the activity, I felt somewhat "forced" to attend more frequently.
I think I just want to be able to occasionally hang out with my friends of group A, without generating tension with that guy. I want to go back to doing the activity every 2-3 months, and sometimes meet only with the 3 friends from the start.
I do not want to be called out if I distance myself from them a little. (They already blame me for not attending the activity very often).
With group C I had too much when the toxic in that group started criticizing me for not meeting them every week. This time I started to worry when the same pattern repeated... Maybe I'm the problem
What to do with a toxic friend in a group?
Maybe this has been asked a million times (I didn't find it... links and useful search queries are appreciated). But how should I deal with a toxic friend in a group?...