He’s known for a different meme, but he’s used in this one and manages to look like he’s posing at gunpoint after being told “look casual and not afraid. Now, smile.”
I haven’t been called son by anyone but my dad in decades.
It was also by a condescending asshole the last time it happened.
Seeing as how one side of my family goes back to Baden-Wurttemburg and nearby areas, I can be as insensitive about my own ancestry’s culture all I want.
“If you’re a publisher, creator or brand on Flipboard, you’ll start to see new visitors and engagement as people discover and share your content across the growing Fediverse.”
And there’s the rub. Once something starts talking about brands, the whole thing just means someone is trying to make money off of someone else’s work.
Now, that’s not an inherently bad thing! That’s part of how an open system works. It just means that whatever is joining the fediverse has to be watched carefully and pruned as soon as it starts turning into spam.
If you only use your own feed of followed users and hashtags, you won’t likely see any of it. But it can still be a problem for new users, and it’s antithetical to the idea of the fediverse being run by people for people. There’s a certain degree of leeway in what can be considered a person for this idea, but once a company that’s publicly traded dives into things, it starts fraying at the edges.
Basically, those companies start treating their ability to “toot” as free ad space. That isn’t cool. We should all be able to use an “all” feed without the bullshit.
And that’s ignoring the possibility of a company making accounts on instances to artificially “retweet” their bullshit, which just isn’t cool. It’s bad manners.
This is exactly how things should be done. If anything, him doing it this way succeeds at making me overrated interested in the game, which isn’t one I’d usually go for. Just because he’s doing it the right way.
Compared to that, star trek is a million times more popular lol.
But, like other people have said, it’s a huge thing. Star Trek is one of, if not the most successful TV universe. It crossed into movies, comics, books, toys, everything. The “brand” spans most of a human lifetime so far, and has done so with a surprisingly minor degree of fuckery that insults the fan base.
So you end up with generations of fans, across all kinds of demographics.
It’s science fiction. And there’s not many hives of scum and villainy places online that are more sci-fi friendly than lemmy; even mastodon isn’t quite as sci-fi loving.
But you may be missing that star wars has a ton of related C/s as well. There’s dedicated sci-fi C/s scattered around. Compare that to genres like fantasy or westerns, and you start to see the trend leaning that way.
But, you’re right that it is a disproportionate thing. The only “brand” that seems to be as universal as trek on lemmy is LOTR, and that’s a foundation of fantasy as a whole.
What’s cool is that it’s a reasonable word for what she used it for. Just a bunch of stuff flying and landing wherever, with little concern for the stuff itself, or how much clean-up is required.
Kinda like how bullshit drops at random and stinks up the place it drops, with no concern by the entity that dropped it.
It’s utter bukake that this woman got dissed by someone that couldn’t stop and consider things before the load of bukake they dropped on the internet about it.
I strongly recommend that lemmy turn the use of bukake as synonym for bullshit into a thing.
Apple has begun piloting an App Store feature called contingent pricing that will let developers offer cheaper subscriptions to customers based on the other subscriptions they already hold. The company says it's meant to help developers "attract and retain subscribers."
I’m gonna say the Dick VanDyke show has aged extremely well overall.
Then again, you have stuff that’s a little more recent, so there’s less “era shock” involved. Stuff like NYPD Blues, ER, and the CSI type shows. There’s some cultural references in those shows that misses, but they don’t feel as alien to people that were raised with internet access.
But I would still say that the DvD show manages to still hit with its comedy, despite the cultural shift. And comedy is harder to insulate against cultural shifts. There’s only a handful of the old sitcoms that work for young adults now, and that’s one of them. Kids don’t get it as much, but I think that’s more about them being kids than the culture. A lot of kids still enjoy older shows, just not DvD, hence my opinion on that.
Now, worst? The Honeymooners. There’s just too much reliance on humor that really only works for an older generation, and the near constant threat of violence (no matter how unthreatening it actually is) puts a lot of people off. If you look at I love Lucy, which has a slightly less ugly threat of spanking here and there, along with the regular built in patriarchy-as-humor battle of the sexes thing; it still works outside of it because Lucy does the nigh slapstick bits that allow you to just ignore the rest.
You could point to the older westerns as examples of not aging well, but that’s the whole genre of tv western having issues that make it harder to watch now, not shows in specific. There’s still some that work well enough, but not enough to be able to only have one or two bad examples left.
The advent of stuff like tubi that run older shows means that some kids are being exposed to older tv, and if you talk to teenagers in specific, you can get an idea of what kind of shows have lost relevance because of culture shift. Not that there’s a monolithic, sweeping consensus, but you can pick up what is and isn’t working well enough for kids to watch on their own time rather than when they don’t have a choice. Obviously, sample size matters, but for casual conversation, the above is what I’ve noticed.
And here’s the realistic explanation for why and why now:
"…Orin Kerr, a law professor at the University of California, Berkeley, wrote on X on Wednesday that “from a public policy standpoint, that seems like a bummer.”
“Geofencing has solved a bunch of really major cases that were otherwise totally cold,” he wrote.
“And there are lots of ways of doing the legal process (including Google’s warrant policy, although that’s just one way) that are a lot more privacy protective than ordinary warrants. But I can see why this might be in Google’s business interest. If there isn’t a lot of economic value to Google in keeping the data, and having it means you need to get embroiled in privacy debates over what you do with it, better for Google to drop it.”
It’s a good thing! It never should have been allowed in the first place. But, Google didn’t give a fuck until it caused them enough hassle. Doing this is just a way to avoid something more expensive later, it isn’t a strong principled stand. And I’d bet small amounts that they’ll still have a way to use the data anyway. It won’t be some magic wand that means Google can’t make money off of it.
I was going through Pine64’s page again after I found the latest KDE announcement. With that said, I seem to see a lot of issues with firmware on the Pine, whilst the Librem is just plain out of budget for me. Was interested in how many people here run a Linux mobile as a daily driver, and how has your experience been?...
Man, the call problems are a dealbreaker for any phone at all, imo. Maybe not for a toy, but it’s bonkers that they’d release a phone OS that isn’t 100% call stable.
OK, the previous map’s vegetation was bugging me, so I took a bit of time to practice those particulars. I want to add a bit more depth to the shrubs, but hey, they still get the job done.
But, anyone that couldn’t see the Mondrian influence in the work has never seen his stuff. Even the choice of trees as the background is a direct call back to his work.
Are you curious about Mastodon? Mammoth, the Google-funded app, could be the app that will use all of you to destroy the Fediverse*
Dear friends of decentralization, welcome to the end of the world!
One of the most serious limitations of Mastodon (not to mention other obscene software, such as the cumbersome Friendica or the toy Misskey) is that... it sucks!
No it's not true, it doesn't suck, in fact it has improved the ergonomics a lot, but compared to commercial social networks it still seems to be several years behind.
At the moment only Bluesky seems to do worse, but in that case we are actually talking about a dead fetus kept artificially alive by American journalists, so it's a bit out of competition...
** Did you want to know why I titled it “funded by Google”?*
The app is definitely well made and has some interesting new features.
The updated app will introduce a number of features designed to appeal to former X users, including personalized suggestions of accounts to follow, to help you rebuild your network on Mastodon, as well as curated “smart lists” that help you find interesting conversations that take place on Mastodon.…
Mammoth will also integrate with the editorial staff of Flipboard, the social magazine app for curating news on topics from across the web through accounts such as News , Tech , Culture and Science. And it is a partner with Newsmast , another curator of news and communities on Mastodon, as well as Press.coop, which imports feeds from popular news websites into Mastodon. These integrations allow Mammoth 2 to create a number of other “smart lists,” including those for News, World News, Business, Tech, Environment, and Nature.
In short, to use Mastodon more easily, users will give up the most important aspect offered by Mastodon: decentralization!
That's how: following other people's lists, integrating rubbish like Newsmast (one of the projects most oriented towards the Anglospheric centralization of news which is starting to have some singers even in the Italian Fediverse), everything we always wanted to avoid by migrating from Twitter to Mastodon!
I won't hide from you that seeing Mammoth become so popular in some way in the last few days is truly disheartening: a campaign of a few thousand dollars is enough to infest the entire Fediverse with the editorials of a small US company.
By the way, many of Mammoth's features had already been implemented by IceCubes . Not to mention, IceCubes has always been free and open source!
Mammoth has also become open source. But when you launch it, the first thing it does (how horrible!) is make you automatically follow their account (I got visual messages on the new features screen, but I wasn't able to stop the following on that screen) and they a very shitty icon similar to that of Threads.
Most concerning though is their SmartLists feature: send your handle to their official moth.social instance, which uses a Mastodon fork that serves the “Smart Lists” feature. One can reasonably see how this undermines decentralization…
In the photo, Hänsel and Gretel appreciating the ergonomics of the apps financed by BigTech
A final bitter consideration? It's not true that we always want to ruin the beautiful things we have. But unfortunately it is true that we always have this overwhelming desire to help anyone who wants to ruin what we have. As long as he is rich, beautiful and powerful…
Just as a reminder, it isn’t wood only. It’s a composite material. Essentially plasticized wood.
They strip or decolor the lignen, then pump in one resin or another (depending in what company is doing the development experiments), and the result is translucent.
However, it is a great material! Extremely strong, enough to be used structurally. A great insulator. It has incredible potential in construction.
The flaw in that is that the material is basically a hunk of plastic, which means it’s not biodegradable the way natural wood is. It’s also way too early in development by any of the companies trying to be recyclable at all. It may well end up not being recyclable, ever. So you’re looking at an incredible material that may possibly have properties that make it more trouble than it’s worth in the long run.
Like, my opinion after reading about this stuff a decent bit after this news hit, I don’t see it replacing glass or wood any time soon. It’ll be more expensive, harder to work with, and be essentially single use because you can’t reuse it very well unless you just happen to need things the exact same sizes. It still relies on the same sources we get wood from so there’s no ecological benefit to it.
So, it’s cool as hell, but my gut says it won’t amount to much
Another player who was at the table during the incident sent me this meme after the problem player in question (they had a history) left the group chat....
Fucking hephaestus! A literal god, either born lame, or made so (depending on where and when the version is), says “fuck alla y’all, imma go make shit” and begins turning out items so fucking good they make gods more powerful. Stuff so good that other gods couldn’t do their job without them.
Motherfucker created robots (automatons), mechanical animals.
And, when he was exiled, fucking Ares, the ultimate fighter, got scared off by him. It took Dionysus getting him shit faced to make him come back home, but he wouldn’t budge for threat or bribe.
Now that’s a god among gods. And motherfucker is even more crippled up than I am.
You hit the darkness multiple times, dealing incredible damage to something infinite. Your disrespect to the goddess of darkness has drawn her ire, and you are surrounded by several of her priests, a serpent of shadows, and can feel the icy breath of a shadow dragon on the back of your neck.
Think about how you have treated both strangers and people you know to answer this question accurately. e.g.: If you say you like people but constantly avoid talking or doing any activity with other people do you actually like people?
People in general are idiots. People in large groups are even bigger idiots. Most organized groups of people are assholes.
However, individuals can be quite lovely. Or they can be like the above listing; idiots and/or assholes. Individually, I don’t mind the risk of running into the unpleasant ones too much. There’s always the chance that I’ll run into the pleasant ones, so I don’t automatically avoid individuals.
But groups? Fuck that shit, not without multiple weapons on me and a clear escape route. Even online, once got get groups going, the tide shifts to idiotic assholery at quantum speeds. It takes effort to not do it, and most people are too damn lazy to be decent online.
What’s funny? People irl fucking like me. I’m chill on the surface, I’m friendly and polite. I’m outright fucking charming. But that comes along with the assholes and idiots (or idiotic assholes) thinking that I’m the same kind of person they are, and showing their real self.
And that’s even with the fact that I don’t shake hands, and enforce a personal space of about four feet, just beyond arm’s reach unless I have no other choice. Assertively enforced at that. I’ll calmly and politely state that I prefer strangers stay far enough away that they can’t touch me, nor I them. And they fucking like that! The few that take it as a joke and decide to press it get stopped gently, and told that I’ll have to assume they mean me harm if they don’t stop. And they like that!
It’s fucking crazy.
I’m not saying everyonealways likes me, but it’s a rare thing when I don’t end up listening to people I just met, often until I have to assert the fact that I need to leave because my body can’t handle it.
I don’t mind that, it just always surprises me how willing people are to show their ugliest sides so often. Like, the decent people, you expect because people tend to want to be liked. But the casual racism is so fucking common. The political rants that turn into literal spit flying from mouths.
People are fucking idiots and/or assholes. But it is just so damn rewarding when you find the ones that aren’t, or at least try not to be. When you find those people, you fucking cherish it.
But, you kinda have to do one playthrough like that. You can have the playlist perfect in theory, but until you listen to it all the way through, you can’t know that you got things the way you really want them. Quick skipping through is the best way to do that with the ability to keep track of what your impressions of the playlist are, rather than just vibing to single songs and missing the overall flow.
It’s absurd absurd how much thought I’ve put into playlist creation and management lol.
Jesus, I remember the first time I got hit with that line (the old guys part, nobody has ever tried the fax on on me…yet). Just hearing it made me feel creepy considering the source, and I was only fucking 32. The girl was 17 FCOL. I literally noped out. Took off saying nope over and over again.
I’ve had giant leather bears hit on me and felt complimented. But that kid just skeeved me out. Luckily, it’s never happened with anyone that young again, but it still isn’t exactly the best line to use lol
I’m in my 20’s and I consider myself a complete ignorant, in the sense that whenever I make a decision I always think “What would the future me do if I had more experience/knowledge?”...
Whew, you’d better stay away from “one in a million” by guns n roses then!
Of course, the two songs are very different, but if you have ever only heard the “radio” version of OIAM (which still doesn’t get played on radio) and then hear the original, you’ll shit yourself.
They’re completely opposite in intent and usage. Dire straits are poking fun at an idiot saying the things in the song. Axl Rose was saying what he thought in the worst possible way. Dude is batshit, and a homophobe. Well, was for sure, I guess even someone that much of an asshole could have changed by now.
Kinda sucks because the song itself isn’t bad, just really nasty. Like, as a slice of life from a person that’s full of anger and hate and wants to run away from his self generated fears, the song is successful. It paints a realistic picture of not only the person that wrote it, but of people that think like that. It’s just really hard to listen to because of that accurate slice of hate.
Ehhh, Axl has gone on record about when and why he wrote the song, and why he used the words he used. He outright said that he didn’t like gay people unless it was lesbians he could watch because that’s his fetish. He did say that he was only using the slurs to point at part of the groups, but the way he said it was still both racist and homophobic.
Slash has said on the record that he objected to the song, and wished it hadn’t been made, but that (at the time) the band didn’t interfere with each other creatively. He also didn’t play much on the track, btw. Afaik, Axl wrote all the acoustic guitar on it, because he’s stated on the record that he sucked at the guitar and was essentially just strumming two strings. I’ve never seen any breakdown of who played what on the recording though, so I can’t say who is playing on the track.
However, Slash has also said that while he didn’t like the song, he wasn’t pissed at Axl because of it. But you can’t use that as a guideline for the song being acceptable or not because a shit ton of other musicians were quite vocal in their objections at the time (including the band that toured with them during that era, Living Color).
It isn’t anyone ascribing anything to him (axl), it’s what he himself has said in interviews, and on stage.
In later interviews he’s outright said that he as a person was a rage junkie (abridged version lol, he did a lot of interviews), and absolutely had hatred for gay people as a whole. He’s given multiple reasons for that, and none of those are self-contradictory. However, none of them excuse his behavior towards gay people.
As far as other things he’s said about his racial beliefs, I don’t know if it’s fair to say he’s full on racist, as in hating black people or any given ethnic group. What is fair to say is that his excuses for use the n slur in the song amount to stereotyping and was certainly intended to attack at least the black people he was stereotyping.
Now, I’m pulling this from having been a fan of the band since they broke into national awareness, and all the stuff I read and heard along the way. But, the interviews are usually available online. I know the Rolling Stone magazine stuff is. There’s still concert ,footage of him from the era ranting about being accused of bigotry, though that was pretty much just him saying “fuck you” to anyone that didn’t like him.
Very specifically, Axl has said that he wrote it from his own perspective, talking about his experiences and his anger. The “one in a million” sections of the song are him repeating something said to him in real life because he was a raging asshole (again, he’s said that on record).
So, the worst motives being ascribed to him aren’t ONLY because he isn’t well liked. Hell, I’ve still got the vinyl of Lies, and have the rest of the pre-breakup albums on at least CD, if not multiple formats. I don’t hate Axl, much less the band.
Knopfler has also been open about how his song was written, and it’s intent. It was, just as you said, holding up the kind of speech and behavior in the song to ridicule. That’s been his public stance on the song from the beginning, and it has never changed afaik. The lyrics support that stance. He’s told the story of writing down many of the lines from the song after hearing them in person by another person. The lyrics are saying that the musicians on stage and screen are the yo-yos playing Hawaiian music, so the f slur in the song would be directed at Knopfler himself even if he was writing from his own perspective.
I know, that’s a lot of words for a decades old song lol. But anyone that was a fan of the band back then had to negotiate the matter. My best friend still hates Axl because of the song. The debate about exactly how bad the lyrics are was a nearly daily thing for a few weeks after the EP came out. I never hated Axl, I don’t waste my hate on strangers very often (and never on strangers that can’t really do anything with whatever bullshit they spew). But I get why people do.
Absolutely! It wasn’t at all unusual, even for other slurs. But gay slurs were outright common. Ffs, even in 91, my high school had a gym class playing “smear the queer” and that was the gym teacher calling it that. It wasn’t a secret, it was right out in the open. And that really was about the mildest kind of bullshit gay people had to deal with.
My best friend in high school was/is gay (still my best friend, still gay lol). He was mean as a snake, so nobody was dumb enough to directly attack him, but it was a real fear that it could happen, or that it could end up a planned attack by enough people when he was alone that his willingness to fuck people up wasn’t a deterrent.
By about 93, I had been going to the closer gay bars with him, and ended up bouncing at a few when I moved to the city for a while. It could get ugly fast at those places. Here in the south, the acceptance of gay folks still isn’t where it should be, but back then, we would have assholes showing up specifically to beat gay people. I’ve got a few scars from trying to keep our patrons safe and alive. All of us at the big drag club ended up with scars.
The sheer ease with which some of those sociopaths would drive into the city specifically to try and hurt someone they didn’t even know was disgusting. The police response was utter bullshit. A couple of times, people damn near died while we tried to keep things under control because the cops didn’t care. At least the ambulance people were fast, those folks were incredible, and always got there before the cops, despite being located farther away.
It’s one of the reasons I can’t bring myself to hate Axl. I’m amazed I didn’t end up thinking that way too, if I’m being honest. My family were mostly cool with gaydom (that’s an actual thing my aunt said once), but they still looked at it with pity and condescension. “Those poor people”. I have to laugh at it a little or it would make me sad.
I don’t hate the original version. But it has so many flaws, I’ve never watched it a second time. Just not a true-to-the-spirit comic adaptation. I never care about direct copying of plots from comics, and I’m very open to modified back stories as well; after all, the tradition of alternate realities in comics is canon.
But they need to stay true to the spirit of the character/s. If they can’t do that, then there’s no point in it. If you make a Spider-Man movie/show and he’s this grim, uber-serious person, it isn’t going to work (most of the time)
And that’s where the first suicide squad failed. Pretty much, Harley was the only one that was close enough to their “spirit” for it to work. Everyone else felt like they just copied the look partially, then wrote without bothering to read anything about the character.
Comics have that freedom in a way book adaptations don’t. Books and comics made into movies trade on the idea of established fan bases being the initial “butts in seats”. With books, established fans expect not only the characters, but the plots to adhere to the printed original (otherwise, it isn’t the same thing at all, and they might as well just call it a parody and be done). But comic fans love a good alternate reality. But if the company can’t be bothered to understand the characters that make such things interesting in the first place, it’s a fail.
That scene was brutal. I cried like a baby. And it so encapsulated Tennant’s doctor, his sheer joy in life that kept him going no matter how bad things got. It also drove home the weight of a doctor that loved a human, and became friends with one in a way he never had before.
To me, there’s no bad doctors at all, only varying degrees of greatness. But Tennant is the only one that can match “my” doctor, Tom Baker. Everything about his run just worked for me. So, that scene? Perfect, andb the quote itself is the distillation of that .
What’s worse is that now I end up having it binged every now and then because my wife still likes even the later seasons. When you watch it like that, all the little issues show up more.
Eh, imessage isn’t worth paying a subscription for. Not a monthly one for sure. Like, I’m glad people have the option now, but I just don’t see the benefit being high enough to warrant a subscription.
Trig (lemmy.world)
Well. Now I know what I'm doing (lemmy.world)
Flipboard Begins to Federate (flipboard.medium.com)
Dev Behind Highly Regarded PC Game Explains Why He Raised The Price: "Go Pirate It, I Don't Care" (www.gamespot.com)
David Szymanski is hoping publicity from the upcoming film makes up for lower sales volumes right now.
Dear Lemmy, **why** Star Trek??
Every single large server in this federation has at least one Star Trek community. There is even an entire server dedicated to Star Trek....
18+ Wrong word (lemmy.world)
Apple is testing a feature to help App Store developers undercut competitors’ subscription prices (www.engadget.com)
Apple has begun piloting an App Store feature called contingent pricing that will let developers offer cheaper subscriptions to customers based on the other subscriptions they already hold. The company says it's meant to help developers "attract and retain subscribers."
RCS has been around for 15 years, but it feels like 15 minutes (www.androidauthority.com)
Google will update Maps to prevent authorities from accessing location history data - The Verge (www.theverge.com)
What TV shows have aged the best, and what TV shows have aged the worst? (kbin.social)
See title.
Your partner/mom/cat has been kidnapped, and the only way to save them is to "write a comment that is guaranteed to get downvoted on Lemmy." What do you comment?
Google Just Killed Warrants That Give Police Access To Location Data (www.forbes.com)
How many of you run a Linux phone (Pine64, Librem etc) as your daily driver?
I was going through Pine64’s page again after I found the latest KDE announcement. With that said, I seem to see a lot of issues with firmware on the Pine, whilst the Librem is just plain out of budget for me. Was interested in how many people here run a Linux mobile as a daily driver, and how has your experience been?...
Sloppy Shrubbery Grove (dormi.zone)
OK, the previous map’s vegetation was bugging me, so I took a bit of time to practice those particulars. I want to add a bit more depth to the shrubs, but hey, they still get the job done.
'Snow Melt (Spring Thaw)' Leaded glass, bevels, fused images by Josephine A. Geiger (lemmy.ml)
From her website...
For real though. Tough to get through. (lemmy.world)
Apparently this reminder is needed....
Opinion: Amazon's 'The Tick' Deserves a Third Season (collider.com)
'The Tick' is a perfect fit for Prime Video's current superhero-themed lineup.
Why hasn't Disney done a live action Aristocats yet? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)
André Braugher Dies: Star Of ‘Homicide: Life On The Street’, ‘Brooklyn Nine-Nine’ & Other Series And Films Was 61 (deadline.com)
EDIT: The cause of death has come out. Lung Cancer....
What is your favorite disaster movie or show ?
;-)
Why scientists are making transparent wood (arstechnica.com)
The material is being exploited for smartphone screens, insulated windows, and more.
Had this conversation with someone who chose to no longer be at my table after meeting a blind NPC (files.catbox.moe)
Another player who was at the table during the incident sent me this meme after the problem player in question (they had a history) left the group chat....
Attacking the darkness (ttrpg.network)
For those unfamiliar with the Dead Alewives skit this is referencing, it’s funny as hell: www.youtube.com/watch?v=-leYc4oC83E
Do you like or dislike people in general? Why?
Think about how you have treated both strangers and people you know to answer this question accurately. e.g.: If you say you like people but constantly avoid talking or doing any activity with other people do you actually like people?
Skipping along, missing most of the beats... (lemmy.ca)
It's just like calling someone's printer from your landline. (startrek.website)
What lesson that you didn't see when you were younger and now can see, you would teach to your younger self?
I’m in my 20’s and I consider myself a complete ignorant, in the sense that whenever I make a decision I always think “What would the future me do if I had more experience/knowledge?”...
Just a lot of a word that hasn't aged all that well (lemmy.world)
the bg loooool (media.kbin.social)
David Ayer On The ‘Ayer Cut’ Of ‘Suicide Squad’: “It’s Coming” and “Something’s Going To Be Revealed” (deadline.com)
What is your favorite Dr Who quote? (sh.itjust.works)
What is a TV show that was one of your favourites, but just went on for far too long? (kbin.social)
See title
father (cdn.catsweat.com)
Beeper Mini is the iMessage for Android app we’ve been waiting for - Mishaal Rahman (www.androidauthority.com)
Personally I don’t care about this since apple is adopting rcs next year. But its a great thing for people who want iMessage.
History ™ (startrek.website)
I'm starting to feel like there's not much choice (lemmy.world)