How is wyll useless in a fight? Give him the +cha to cantrip robe and at fifth level he’s doing 2d10+20 +2d6 every round. At 11th level he gets a third beam for another 1d10+10 +1d6. The d6s are hex, but you could drop that for something else I guess. Darkness + devil sight is very effective.
Though I guess if you long rest a lot, a class with consistent output isn’t going to seem as nice.
My group has been using owlbear rodeo. The current DM makes a lot of maps and uses owlbear’s fog of war tool to reveal as we explore. It’s fine.
I used it once just sketching the map as we went using it’s drawing tools. Also fine. Like a dry erase board, but more awkward because of using a mouse instead of a marker.
In person I had a dry erase board with a grid printed on it, a bunch of tokens from board games, and coins to use as stuff.
I also used Google sheets for a while during the pandemic. It gives you a grid you can color and mark and everyone can see and edit. Worked surprisingly well. Also good for note taking
Mike Dulak grew up Catholic in Southern California, but by his teen years, he began skipping Mass and driving straight to the shore to play guitar, watch the waves and enjoy the beauty of the morning. “And it felt more spiritual than any time I set foot in a church,” he recalled....
I’m not Christian but there are some good bits in the Christian Bible I’d be happy if more people followed. “pray in the closet” , the good Samaritan, and the sheep and the goats mostly.
Unfortunately a lot of people use religion as an excuse to be a huge asshole.
I really intensely dislike the thing I think is Material You. It changed a bunch of OS colors on my phone to be kind of baby puke green because my background was an autumn photo of the park. Gross. Hate it. Can’t really disable it.
I don’t think this is a big trend in real life but at several jobs I’ve had to go off on a spiel about how hover isn’t a great interaction. Doesn’t work on mobile. Easy to create mouse tunnels. People might not think to hover over random things on the page.
I recently moved to the USA, from the middle east. My English is pretty good, and I don’t have a lot of trouble communicating with people at work or in stores. I also don’t know anyone here at all, outside of work. All my family is still back in Gaza, and I’ve been here over a year now, and still feel cut off from American...
Who the fuck is paying $250/mo for their phones?? I literally pay $20/mo. Unlimited voice and text, 5gb data, and pay as you go past that. But I’m on WiFi almost all the time so I’ve never used a lot of data.
Or does that include the cost of buying a new phone? A new android phone is like $500 and lasts probably five years. Doesn’t add up
PyCharm. Does pretty much everything I need. Work paid for it.
syntax highlighting
auto complete and suggestions
find usages/definition
refactor
delete
move
extract
rename
git integration
SQL integration
steps into library code
connect to sources installed in docker
probably other stuff I take for granted and can’t think of now
I’ve had some coworkers who are more “steady hand and a magnetized needle” and I don’t know how they do it. Like I was collaborating with a guy and watching him manually find and rename stuff was painful. Though I think a lot of people just don’t know how to use their tools. There’s a lot of stuff in pycharm I dont use.
I’m still slightly salty about an old coworker that would use vanilla sublime and make PRs full of easily caught errors. “Can you approve my pr?” “No dude the linter failed. Did you ever set up any of the tooling locally?” “Nah”
Now it is my turn to be the guy with the steady hand and magnetized needle. I don’t think I use semantic highlighting unless it’s on by default and I never noticed . I might go check it out on Monday.
Do you remember what issues you were having with it?
By now, you may have heard about Elon Musk’s handpicked CEO for X, Linda Yaccarino, and her disastrous interview with CNBC’s Julia Boorstin at Vox Media’s Code 2023 event. However, somewhat overlooked amid some of the more viral moments of the discussion, Yaccarino dropped some previously unknown stats that don’t exactly...
Part of why I liked reddit was that the site was, in my experience, content-first rather than user-first. Social media like Instagram feels very centered around the users trying to get likes and subscribes, trying to gain a following, and that kind of bullshit. On reddit (and here) I pretty much never look at someone’s name. No one feels like they’re trying to build a following or a brand. It was just a place for people to talk about Elden Ring or whatever.
I don’t know how to use vscode. In general in Python you can do breakpoint() and your code will pause there and become interactive. If you’re running in docker you’ll want to attach to the container. When it hits the breakpoint you basically drop into a normal python repl with extra features.
This is really, really, good for debugging and developing. You can interactively examine stuff and try stuff right there. You don’t have to rerun the whole thing to be like “ok what’s the second item in the list? Is this syntax right to sort it?” or whatever you’re trying to do
I use pdb++ for syntax highlighting and some other qol features, too.
Remember when Robert Moses intentionally made the parkways hostile to buses and trains? There’s a bit in The Power Broker about how his engineers wanted to put trains in, or at least build the roads so it would be easy to do later. Moses said no.
Yeah I figured it was going to be a Bethesda game, and those usually frustrate me. I didn’t buy it. Maybe in a couple years when the Ultimate Edition is on sale I’ll try it.
I was pleasantly surprised that Baldur’s Gate 3 has full on nudity and some sex scenes. It’s not like a whole porno but I thought it was well done. A new standard is set for me.
The balance in Morrowind was often unhinged in favor of the player. Oblivion and Skyrim tended to be unbalanced against you and fun. “oh you leveled speech and acrobatics? Well now the dungeons have mega-liches. get fucked”. Or “congratulations on finishing the dungeon. Here is your level appropriate reward” instead of anything interesting or surprising.
In a report published on Thursday, three U.N.-appointed experts said they had found practices in U.S. prisons that amounted to “an affront to human dignity” in visits in April and May....
Unfortunately a lot of americans like it just the way it is. Nothing’s going to get better without a lot of time, or a lot of conservatives ending up in the ground
Off topic but the images from here don’t load most of the time for me. I’m missing out on quality posts! Seems to work for other people, or you’re all just pretending. What do I do? Other communities are fine
I still remember being really frustrated with an ex’s teenage brother and his inability to save money. It was like only the short term existed, and somehow inexplicably the short term always kind of sucked.
At least he was a teenager. A lot of adults never advance
I frequently find myself losing momentum at the end of things that I enjoy. For instance, I’ve been playing Baldur’s Gate 3 and loving it. I recently got into the last act (Act 3) of the game, and I’m finding myself a bit burned out on it and gravitating towards other games. I’m also in the last episode of Dimension...
I don’t have ADHD (so far as I know) and I also found finishing the final act a little difficult. There’s so much stuff! And the order you do things in kind of matters. And it has one of the hardest sequences (imo)
A sign hung in Port Coquitlam advertising a “whites-only” moms and tots group is causing outrage online after photos of a poster were shared on social media.
I’ve done a lot of thinking about how people use and fail at dating apps. I joke I should write a book about how to do better (and not in a gross pick up artist way)
So I’m mildly curious about your experiences, but you don’t owe me a biography. Hope you find happiness!
I had written so much and I clicked up vote on the comment below this and it vanished. I am so sad. Let me try again.
It sounds like you were doing a lot right! But this:
I did get matches, but ALL the chats went nowhere. They all start off well, we make some small talks and the chats frizzle off over time or they ghost you.
What happened here? How long were you chatting?
My advice (to anyone, maybe not you if you’re off the apps) is to ask people out sooner. If they matched with you and responded reasonably well to your first message, they have signalled interest. That’s most of what you need.
I usually match, write a message specific to them (never send a generic message, guys!), and then see what they say. After a handful of good exchanges I’ll usually ask them out. If you ever end on like “let’s chat again tomorrow” when you’re still interested and you haven’t asked them out, you probably fucked up
“Do you want to have a date, talk more about {X}, and see if we get along in person?” has worked well for me.
If you don’t ask them out, someone bolder will, and most people will prioritize a real person they’ve met over a blip in an app.
One of my women friends often complains about men who write and chat and dither and never ask her out.
I hope this helps someone. It does sound like your life is in a good place though.
I might come back and write a longer reply when I’m not on my phone. Edit: lol this got real long. Let me try to be helpful with this tiny keyboard in the meantime.
I would usually chat for maybe 2-3 days, and I think the longest chat I’ve had active was for a week
That is too long to be chatting! When I first started dating I would also talk to people over messages for a long time, and also I got no dates. Then one of my friends was like “I just ask 'em out. What are they going to do, say no?” That’d be doing you a favor because you can move on.
The problem is I’m not really good at chatting Relatable. Most of us aren’t naturally good at it. But the good news is the bar for acceptable is pretty low, and you can get better with practice
(it just feels so fake asking the same old small talk stuff, like you know, how you feel inside when put on a fake smile?)
What sort of topics are you chatting about? In my head there’s like a rough hierarchy of quality topics
Best : something explicitly on their profile you’re interested in. You can usually assume if someone wrote “I love NK jemisen’s books” they will be happy to talk about that. Remember to try to ask open ended questions!
Okay: something implicitly on their profile you’re interested in, like if they live in a neighborhood you like, if they have a job title you can relate to.
Bad: generics like weekend or holiday plans. Think hard before using this.
Unacceptable: anything about their body. Anything solely about you. Copy-pasted messages.
Embarrassingly bad: “hey”. Do not under any circumstances send a dead end message like “hey”. You open with a hook or you don’t open.
For example, I matched with a woman whose profile said something like “tell me about cool [music] shows!”. We matched, I wrote something like “hello! There’s this amazing band Screaming Females playing Thursday. You ever listen to them? I saw the singer crowd surf while playing a solo once!”. She wrote back that that sounded amazing. We talked a bit more (the details escape me and I can’t find the original conversation now, a year later), and within the hour I asked if she wanted to meet up for a drink. She said yes. We had a great time.
Side note: probably don’t do a first date at a concert. You need to be able to talk to your date, and also bail early if it’s terrible!
and I don’t know how to organically switch from a random small talk to asking them out.
This used to give me a lot of trouble, too. In my experience you don’t really have to be very organic about it , really.
It’s like:
your initial message
their good response
your follow up
their good response
explicit check for deal breakers
your “amazing. Do you want to go out for a drink and see if we get along?”
The last two can feel a little weird, but you really need to get to an in person date if you want to have any luck.
Whats your criteria for this? What’s a good number of exchanges, and do you ask your dealbreaker / serious questions during this time, or just keep it all casual, like asking them about their interests etc?
I don’t have a firm rule but I feel like two or three quality messages are enough. If I’m getting dead end replies (where they respond but don’t ask anything) I might fish a little longer if they’re really hot or something. Try not to let the conversation roll into another day.
Side note: I highly recommend the rule of three. Don’t send three messages in a row. You can send one message. If you don’t hear anything, you can send a second. Under no circumstances should you send a third message in a row. Working backwards from that, make your second message good. Don’t blow it on “hey wyd?”.
I also have a pretty big potential deal breaker about myself. It’s listed explicitly on my profile, but a lot of people don’t read profiles. I ask before asking them out. Usually with something like “Before we get too invested, did you see the thing in my blurb about {deal breaker}? Is that something you’re comfortable with?”
Some people bail at that point. But that’s fine. If people respond positively, that’s a great time to ask them out.
But many people don’t! If they’re cool with it, I ask them out. Suggest a date and location and see what they say.
Once plans are made, I generally do not keep texting. The more you text before meeting, the more likely you are to say something that doesn’t land right. People are fickle. In person you have body language doing you a lot of favors.
I do text the day before to confirm they’re still up for it, and then when I leave the house to head to the date, but that honestly might be a bit much. I’m just really burned by being ghosted or dealing with poor communicators, I over communicate a little myself.
Unrelated tip: have some date plans ready to go. I’ve got a handful of local bars (walking distance from my home :finger guns:), a couple places in a more central location, two non alcoholic ideas
Ok I should get back to work. Hope this helped someone! Feel free to ask more.
I live in a walkable city. It’s fucking great. Walk for groceries. Walk to the park. Bike a little. (though the bike lanes aren’t all that safe what with the fucking cars)
Yep. The combination of moving to New York City and reading “death and life of great American cities” really pushed me into being anti car culture. That and looking back at growing up in the suburbs where I couldn’t do anything without a car. Age like 10-17 sucked. I was so jealous of the kids that lived in the city and could go out and do things.
I remember freely cursing with friends probably starting at 3rd grade or so. Just curious about everyone else’s experiences or if that was even a thing for some of y’all.
My mother’s stance was always something like “if you’re going to swear, swear competently.” Also a bit of “recognize the appropriate time and place for swearing. Home with family? Fine. Grandparent’s church? Be nice”
I don’t know about your home and office, but every office I worked in had atrocious heating and cooling. People wear hoodies inside all summer because the AC is set too low.
Don’t forget about all the useless TVs and monitors running in offices all the time.
And heating/cooling/lighting all the empty rooms.
Plus staff for cleaning and security.
You’re not wrong that it’d be interesting to see some data, but my intuition is offices are extremely wasteful in a lot of ways. I could be wrong though!
I’ve been thinking lately that a lot of people are way worse at reading comprehension than I would have guessed. Like, there’s a large chunk of the population where reading is difficult and uncomfortable. Of course they prefer YouTube.
We’d rarely encounter these people on a text first medium like here.
I never got why conservative got crazy if you specify a pronoun, but at the same time expect you to specify whether its, it’s Mr/Ms/Miss (and often don’t take Dr as an answer), looks like the same question
I mean. Maybe. But much of the time it’s like “hello I’m gay and I would like to live peacefully” and conservatives are like “whoa let’s not go crazy.”
It’s easy to argue for slow change when you benefit from the current state of things.
Also most conservatives in the US seem to be reactionaries or radicals that want to make sweeping changes like abolishing the DoE.
The same week his state outlawed racial discrimination based on hairstyles, a Black high school student in Texas was suspended because school officials said his locs violated the district’s dress code....
People who reclassed companions, what class did you give whom?
I’m not fond of some of the classes or play as one myself and want else on companions, but I try to keep them lore friendly....
Help needed: how do YOU do things?
So, after almost 2 decades I decided to 0lay DND again. Since I have been and always will be forever DM, I’ve been reading up....
America's nonreligious are a growing, diverse phenomenon. They really don't like organized religion (apnews.com)
Mike Dulak grew up Catholic in Southern California, but by his teen years, he began skipping Mass and driving straight to the shore to play guitar, watch the waves and enjoy the beauty of the morning. “And it felt more spiritual than any time I set foot in a church,” he recalled....
What UI design trend do you hate the most?
I personally hate rounded corners and shadows added everywhere. Makes most things look crappy and smudged.
New to America USA, how do you socialize and meet new people?
I recently moved to the USA, from the middle east. My English is pretty good, and I don’t have a lot of trouble communicating with people at work or in stores. I also don’t know anyone here at all, outside of work. All my family is still back in Gaza, and I’ve been here over a year now, and still feel cut off from American...
How does she ever decide what to watch? (ttrpg.network)
Homes "unaffordable" in 99% of nation for average American (www.cbsnews.com)
Which software do you mostly use for programming, and why? (suppo.fi)
Twitter is losing daily active users. CEO Linda Yaccarino confirmed it. (mashable.com)
By now, you may have heard about Elon Musk’s handpicked CEO for X, Linda Yaccarino, and her disastrous interview with CNBC’s Julia Boorstin at Vox Media’s Code 2023 event. However, somewhat overlooked amid some of the more viral moments of the discussion, Yaccarino dropped some previously unknown stats that don’t exactly...
Let the debugger do its job. (suppo.fi)
10000 passengers per hour (feddit.de)
Starfield Is Bethesda's Lowest-Rated Game On Steam (www.gamespot.com)
Starfield Is Bethesda's Lowest-Rated Game On Steam (sh.itjust.works)
By Claire Lewis on September 27, 2023 at 3:28PM PDT...
Am a bit smitten by Lae'zel (i.imgur.com)
US jail practices are racist and an 'affront to human dignity,' UN experts say (www.reuters.com)
In a report published on Thursday, three U.N.-appointed experts said they had found practices in U.S. prisons that amounted to “an affront to human dignity” in visits in April and May....
AI-Generated 'Subliminal Messages' Are Going Viral. Here's What's Really Going On (www.vice.com)
Just imagining Bones finding out and being extremely impressed (startrek.website)
‘Unconscionable’: Baby boomers are becoming homeless at a rate ‘not seen since the Great Depression’ — here’s what’s driving this terrible trend (moneywise.com)
In case you forgot. (lemmy.world)
Losing momentum at the end of things
I frequently find myself losing momentum at the end of things that I enjoy. For instance, I’ve been playing Baldur’s Gate 3 and loving it. I recently got into the last act (Act 3) of the game, and I’m finding myself a bit burned out on it and gravitating towards other games. I’m also in the last episode of Dimension...
Majority of Americans continue to favor moving away from Electoral College (www.pewresearch.org)
65% of U.S. adults say the way the president is elected should be changed so that the winner of the popular vote nationwide wins the presidency.
Metaverse: What happened to Mark Zuckerberg's next big thing? (www.bbc.com)
Two years ago, the metaverse was billed as the next big thing - but many in the tech world have already moved on....
Sign for “whites-only” moms and tots group in Metro Vancouver sparks outrage (dailyhive.com)
A sign hung in Port Coquitlam advertising a “whites-only” moms and tots group is causing outrage online after photos of a poster were shared on social media.
What was the funniest thing your ex did to try to win you back?
J.R.R. Tolkien’s little-known feud with cars (web.archive.org)
Tolkien couldn’t stand cars, and his philosophy of embracing walking and biking might just be the key to a hobbit’s happy and cheerful life....
xkcd #2832: Urban Planning Opinion Progression (imgs.xkcd.com)
xkcd.com/2832/...
Bethesda and CDPR's developers must have very different love lives (lemmy.world)
As a child, when did you start cursing or saying things to your friends that you couldn’t say in front of your parents?
I remember freely cursing with friends probably starting at 3rd grade or so. Just curious about everyone else’s experiences or if that was even a thing for some of y’all.
People who work from home all the time ‘cut emissions by 54%’ against those in office (www.theguardian.com)
Game wikis just aren't as popular anymore?
Has anyone else noticed that Wikis for most games just aren’t as complete anymore?...
What's the difference between asking someone title or someone's pronouns ?
I never got why conservative got crazy if you specify a pronoun, but at the same time expect you to specify whether its, it’s Mr/Ms/Miss (and often don’t take Dr as an answer), looks like the same question
A Black student was suspended for his hairstyle. The school says it wasn’t discrimination (apnews.com)
The same week his state outlawed racial discrimination based on hairstyles, a Black high school student in Texas was suspended because school officials said his locs violated the district’s dress code....