I think some of it too is your drinking habits. When you’re drinking a lot, you’ll be more resistant to hangovers from low alcohol consumption. The problem is you never stay at just 3 drinks when you drink that much.
It took me a bit after graduating to realize that college had reinforced my bad work habits. I just piled on more and more stress and didn’t know how to deal with it beyond pushing myself too far. It worked well in a punctuated semester system, but not so much at an actual job. Not to mention it was horrible for my mental health.
And the only coping mechanic I learned in college was drinking, which is a horrible coping mechanism. I didn’t know how else to handle stress, so when the pandemic broke all of us, I drowned my anxiety and worries. It was when I went through an entire 2L of soda in one night as mixer (for heavy poured drinks) that I knew I had to cut back.
Looking back, it always felt like I was chasing something while drinking after graduating, that I could never find. I don’t think it was the alcohol that helped me cope so much in college as it was the socializing and the company. It could never replicate that feeling because it was the people who made it enjoyable.
You’re very welcome! Something else interesting is that the pandemic really broke my productivity, and I discovered I had ADHD that was never diagnosed. It was the whole forcing myself thing that masked it all my life.
I dunno if that’s true for you also, but I figure we’re similar enough that it could be helpful.
I had no idea that hyper focusing was a symptom until later, and it makes so much sense in retrospect. That’s basically what I did to force myself to plow through work
The whole thing is funny when you look at the full phrase too. Graphical Interchange Format – it’s got both a hard g and a soft g. You could call a gif an image. You could also call it a graphic.
At the end of the day, there really isn’t an answer, and there never will be. It’s a fun debate to fuck around with though
Don’t let others dictate how your life will go. I was actually going through a communications training on LinkedIn learning for work yesterday, and the instructor says something very interesting. When it comes to feedback, you have to know whose feedback you care about. She suggested you take criticism from only two people/groups:
Your boss
Anyone you ask for feedback
In other words, fuck unsolicited feedback (ironically, like this comment!). When it comes to being competitive in the job market, you do need to know somewhat how you “measure up”, but that isn’t an accurate valuation of you, as a person.
Edit: (sorry, had to leave mid thought)
I want to use an analogy from Destiny 2 here. Our clan does a lot of raids, and I’ve gotten a handful of raid seals. The clan has grown a lot, so we’ve regularly been taking people on their first runs. They’re complete blueberries, but they’re usually really eager to learn. When we look at damage numbers at a boss, we don’t make a big deal out of people having low damage. Maybe they had just a million compared to my 4 million, but it’s still significant – and with how often I whiff shots and supers, I’m sometimes right there by them.
We never require someone to play a particular class, and we’ll offer recommendations on element but we won’t force them. They could be blasting with Arc Titan thundercrash without cuirass, while there’s a cracked damage combo going on for Solar Titan, and we don’t care. So long as people are enjoying themselves. The more experienced of us will cover for any deficiencies. It’d be embarrassing if we couldn’t do that.
What does any of this have to do with jobs and comparing yourself to others? There are some job requirements that are inescapable, like how you need Lightfall to do Root of Nightmares, and a certain minimum light level. But as long as those are met, you don’t need to worry about how your resume (or boss damage) compares to others. You just play to your strengths and do your best to contribute. Odds are, what you bring to the table is still uniquely helpful in some way, just like how a Solar Warlock might bring Well. The Warlock’s damage is going to pale against that Arc Hunter with Stareaters, but the Warlock’s healing through Well is immensely helpful for the team.
It’s like that with jobs too. Say you don’t have a lot of technical knowledge, and you’re applying for a technical job – if you’ve got a lot of experience out working in the field, and the job group has a lot of implementation issues, you’re going to bring an incredibly helpful perspective and knowledge.
Hopefully something in that stream of consciousness resonated with you. Walk in the Light, my fellow guardian.
The timing you’ve had is really rough, and it looks like you’ve had really shitty employees.
Maybe it’s better to say that you might need to compare yourself, but you shouldn’t take it as an accurate evaluation of you as a person. A lot of things post college are really up to chance – who reads your resume, what role you get, what your supervisor is like, who you meet. I got my current job by reaching out to a former coworker from my last job, and I happened to have the right timing.
It’s shitty, but it just comes down to persistence. There’s nothing wrong with you at all. Don’t take any of it as a personal indictment
Lmao one of the lawmakers in the article is still talking about protecting innocent lives, and that “this isn’t over”. This, in case the GOP was wondering, is why they keep losing on abortion
More than half of young women are making living and work decisions based on abortion access. 44% are thinking of moving or have moved to a state where abortion is protected. 10% have already declined jobs in states where abortion would be illegal. Oh, and 57% of women and 48% of men said their companies and leaders weren’t doing enough to ensure abortion access.
Which has led to some towns having no obgyn clinics at all.
In short, the data sharply disagrees with your survey of the hundreds of women you know. Perhaps you should consider that the people you know aren’t terribly representative of the US as a whole, and you’re drawing terribly incorrect conclusions because of it. I think Ohio, the latest in a long list of Blue and Red states keeping abortion legal, suggests you’re completely incorrect on mainstream Americans. A commanding majority from Kansas to Ohio to Kentucky want to live somewhere where abortion is legal.
The only question left is if you’re going to continue to plug your ears or if you’re actually going to accept that being against abortion puts you outside of mainstream Americans. I’m strongly suspect it’s the former, so I’ll preemptively wish you a pleasant time in finding out just how wrong you are. Repeatedly.
And that accomplishes nothing but a Trump victory.
Also you know that Williamson has her own hang ups right? Older gay people seem to have a very visceral dislike of her for the AIDS epidemic. She ended up convincing people that the illness was a “psychic scream” from your body, telling you to love yourself more.
So they went off their medications, and then died, thinking they were incapable of loving themselves hard enough. Williamson hasn’t apologized at all for it and outright lies about what she said.
And not voting is just selfish. Trump’s policies would kill more Palestinians, and we’d go decades back on climate change. The purity of one’s ideals isn’t worth more than that.
Suddenly, climate change isn’t so much of an urgent issue? Nor abortion? Nor gay rights?
I’m not happy with what’s going on nor what Biden’s doing, but there’s too many people I care about who will get hurt if Trump wins. And I’m not so selfish as to keep my ideals pure.
Life sucks. If you don’t vote for Biden, more Palestinians will die than would otherwise. Is that fucked up? Yeah. Vote for him anyway. The world is cruel, and gives us cruel choices. All we can do is make the best of things.
Your username reminds me too – we have to work in the system. For one, countries collapsing don’t totally come out in better shape. But second, people rely on the system to get life-changing medicine regularly. If society collapses, a lot of people are going to die because they can’t get their medicine that’s necessary to live. A lot more people are going to be nonfunctional because of compromised physical or mental health.
No but I think it would be consolation to the children who are alive but would be torn apart by direct American artillery under Trump.
I have no love for Israel. Sorry to break it to you, but people who disagree with you on something aren’t automatically devout supporters of the IDF. Someone can be “on your side” and still disagree with you because you’re an asshole.
Also you’re literally opposing the choice that leads to fewer Palestinians dying.
Sanders himself expressed disappointment that not as many young people turned out as he had hoped nor needed.
There’s no getting around it. Sanders’ argument was that he would get massive youth turnout and disaffected workers to win the election. That didn’t even happen in the primaries.
I’m a progressive, and I find it utterly idiotic that some progressives would rather “blame the big evil DNC for telling Hillary there either be a question about drinking water in a debate in Flint” than do some introspection. If I wanted to blame all my problems on a nebulous government organization, I’d be wearing a maga hat.
If people have to be “inspired” to vote for LGBT rights and abortion and climate change, and they aren’t going to vote for those otherwise, I’d frankly like them to get the fuck out. Solidarity doesn’t mean “sure I’ll help but only if I’m inspired”, nor is there an existential climate crisis if you have to be “inspired” to vote for addressing it.
It’s truly baffling to me just how hypocritical it is. These people don’t actually care about the issues, they just want to listen to someone that makes them feel good.
I think I was going to say that they have no right to bitch and moan if they didn’t vote for a serious candidate. They make a choice to accept whatever the outcome is, and then they complain about the outcome anyway.
Do they think the system has ever been fair? We’re truly a pathetic generation of so called liberals if we’re too apathetic to fight for a better world. Civil rights, gay rights, women’s suffrage, labor rights – they went up against a much worse situation, and they didn’t balk.
No potential Republican candidate is going to have a more critical policy of Israel than Biden.
Primaries hurt incumbents, and incumbents have an observed electoral advantage.
We need to not only win, but win by the largest margins possible. We need to crush Republicans so their fascist movement dies. We can’t leave any advantage on the table unused.
Biden has been surprisingly supportive of progressive policies and bills – Inflation Reduction Act, American Rescue Plan, the infrastructure bill. And that’s because the progressive wing of the party has gained substantial power. It isn’t just presidency – Biden will do what the majority of Democrats want. We need to get more progressives in Congress too.
Sophee Langerman was on her way to a bicycle safety rally in Chicago’s Lakeview neighborhood in June when a car turning right rolled through a red light and slammed into her bike, which she was walking off the curb and into the crosswalk....
I think all that would accomplish is getting a lot of working class people fired who are living paycheck to paycheck. Other countries have much better public transit.
Not to mention, running a red isn’t usually a willful thing, but a “shit can I get through this yellow light?” And there’s always that uncomfortable of grey area on if you should slam your breaks or speed up.
I think there’s a lack of understanding on just how differently American and European cities are structured. Unless you’re in the Northeast, cities aren’t densely packed. They’re broad and sprawling. This is especially true of mid sized cities. Housing is typically far from businesses. A 10 minute bike ride would barely get me out of the neighborhood, and I’d still have aways to go before a major road.
On the other hand, I biked around campus in college and took the bus system all the time. I didn’t need a car for my day to day.
Public transit is a real challenge for us. There’s no easy answer. Our cities just aren’t structured for it. And I don’t think there’s a public transit model yet that could totally replace cars for us.
I’m curious to see how the arguments for using mm instead of dm varies from the argument for using imperial vs metric. You’re right that there’s way better units to use here, but I think mm is used out of convention. Which is the exact same reason that feet and miles are used, because everyone is used to it.
Most of what I looked into was trying to find the source of it all, so I didn’t look that much into the more modern history, but you’re absolutely right. The British and Zionists made a deal to grow the Jewish population in the region to grow British influence. Israel as a state isn’t even a hundred years old I think.
It is disgusting how between the Balfour Declaration and present the narrative has dehumanized Palestinians and stripped them of their cultural identity – which is genocide through and through. What’s worse is that I think they’ve been kicked down by everyone. In the first Arab Israeli War, the Arab nations occupied Palestine during the war. When they lost, the land was either ceded to or taken by Israel. Now, after decades of using the Palestinians, the neighboring Arab nations won’t take Palestinian refugees. Some have accepted Israel.
And then there’s Hamas, who effectively occupies part of the region and launches attacks from civilian areas. Once again, using Palestinians to their own ends. They have their stockpiles of water and medicine and food, and they aren’t sharing. They anticipated Israel collectively punishing (genociding) all of Palestine in response to their attacks. The radicals are also part of why the neighboring countries aren’t taking in Palestinians. When they did in the past, radicals like Hamas took advantage of it to cause civil strife and conflict. It’s all such a mess. Everyone’s using Palestinians for their own ends while Israel continues their genocide.
At this point, I think Israel has been around long enough that you’d just be punishing children for the sins of their fathers if the state was to be dissolved. By no means though does that mean the borders should stay the same. It should return to the original demarcation, and a state of Palestine, or perhaps Nakba, should be established next to them. Or maybe Israel can treat everyone within their borders and colonies as citizens with equal rights. I know neither are realistic. The latter is impossible with the IDF and conservative government. The former is impossible because of Hamas. They refuse a two state solution, and reiterated the other day that they would continue to do attacks like the first one until everyone there was dead.
Feel free to correct me if anything I’ve said is wrong, like I said I looked into the early history a lot more than the recent. I don’t know what can be done. You have the IDF hellbent on bombing all of Gaza, and you have Hamas hellbent on killing everyone in Israel.
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