There’s a lot of evidence that modern CBT therapy just doesn’t really connect with men very well. Mainly because we don’t really tend to solve problems by “considering more gratitude” or “trying yoga at sunrise maybe?” (Was a legit suggestion when I had a therapist lol)
Men tend to want practical steps and solutions to things. And there isn’t a whole lot of practical solutions one person can try to repair the effects of an increasingly alienating society and collapsing socioeconomic structures.
Therapists can be very helpful, and by all means you should definitely try to find a good one.
But sadly when you realize a lot of your issues are circumstantial and practical though, things like “Well I’m depressed and anxious because I feel everything is out of my control, like layoffs and rent hikes.”…
…Sometimes it feels like the prevalent training and methodology seems to say “Well that sounds like a you problem.”
There’s a really good podcast about this called “It’s Not Just In Your Head”
And a YouTube guy “Dr. K” (actually a doctor btw) who runs a channel called "HealthyGamerGG.
The topic is definitely worth analysis and discussion, why therapy isn’t working for men in particular, as it’s often swept under the rug as just “Men being stubborn and toxic” or whatever, but there is a lot more at play here.
We need to make sure men are heard and cared for, before they get warped by all the “alpha grind real man” grifters that understand how they work, and use it for malicious means.
This reminds me of when I used TOR to check my Facebook account after so many years. It was constantly throwing random almost-explicit-but-definitely NSFW pages at me.
"Where did these come from? Did I accidentally subscribe at some point? Oh they all say “suggested for you.”
Can you turn off “suggested for you”? Lol no. That’s how they force ads on you.
My findings concluded as expected: All the people I knew in highschool are living their dream lives somehow, my grandma’s still into weird rightoid conspiracies, and FB is a dogpoo platform I don’t understand how anybody still uses lol.
Same. It used to be a lot more of historical reenactment, and a lot of the performances and stuff still reflect that.
But the last few times I’ve gone it’s mainly been a themed craft show with corsets and tunics, and yeah, people with wings, steampunk hats, and Cloud’s buster sword, or tails hanging out of their pants. :|
Oh sure I agree! The slightly confusing bit is the one here is called “Age of Chivalry - Renaissance Festival”, but could just as easily be “Medieval-themed fantasy con and craft show” …maybe wouldn’t be as catchy.
…but hey I got some sweet custom dice there ¯_(ツ)_/¯
There’s a great book on the LARP scene called “Leaving Mundania” by Lizzie Stark that’s a really easy, entertaining read. It helped me really empathize with the hobby and the people behind it.
She kinda had the same perspective but approached it with curiosity to figure out what the fuss was about.
(Up until that last chapter on “Nordic LARP”… it’s been ages since I read it but that stuff got weeeird.)
It’s one of those things that would sound like a ton of fun to me, going all in on pretending to be some fantasy character and everybody else is in on the bit, but there’s some combat rules to prevent “invincible OC syndrome” so you’re actually moving playing pretend instead of plopped in a chair for 6 hours for a tabletop game.
In any case, it looks like a good way to escape playing “Bills & Bosses”, a game that is near-universally reviled. hahaha
Unfortunately it’s just very geo-dependent and cost intensive I’d think haha.
One note about the due date thing: There’s no fees because it’s automatic.
They gotta play ball with license holders to offer any kind of service like this at all lol. As much as I also agree with “freely distribute all the things”
This is actually one thing your local library is great about. A lot of them use a service called Libby. It’s free, works for the most part, automatically returns, and your ISP won’t “strike” you for slipping up lol
Faxes and egregiously copying temporary things to paper are the worst.
Sorry, I just worked in a community computer center where people wasted so much paper trying to print stupid things from websites, and were forced to send 80 pages to their lawyers/government/propertylords/whatever, through a dial-up connection in terrible black and white, for $1.00 a page.
It took like 5 seconds per page and to actually send took between 5-20 minutes. . .if it didn’t just error out and force you to start over.
The worst nonsense is forcing people to download and print some 50 page agreement just so they can sign two pages and fax it back. That should be a jailable offense lol.
Cash and paper can stay.
Can we PLEASE just make normie-friendly email encryption so faxes can die for good though?!
I noticed you mentioned fax twice. Sorry if you’re a paper company rep or something. I’m just speaking from a place of pain lol.
Either race-tinged observational jokes can be funny if good spirited (I subscribe to this view) or they should be considered poor taste 100% of the time. (That’s fine too)
But this self-flogging “lol but it’s ok to be racist against people that look like me because the stereotype is some bad people also look like me, so I totally deserve it based on my ancestry, right guys?” Schtick isn’t good for anybody.
(Unless you literally don’t face any injustice on your way to running the world, then I totally misunderstood lol.)
But the idea that you should denigrate yourself to appease others’ misguided hatred of your racial “impurity” is…the exact concept we want to eradicate isn’t it?
Loved the idea behind satoshis. Even tried it out. Even made a little money and got out before it all crashed.
It was an interesting concept until all the mega-grifters showed up to make it yet another speculative commodity to fuel their insatiable gambling addictions.
I consider myself pretty knowledgable in lots of computing topics but even I felt very shakey at the sheer paranoia required to keep digital currency safe. (Assuming it doesn’t suddenly become worthless overnight on its own).
I can’t imagine normies navigating that. And using paypal or a bank or something put you right back at “not your coins” anyway.
Personlly, dumping 100% of it all at once purged a LOT of anxiety.
Plus, accounts are readily trackable on public ledgers. Not very private as soon as various means are deployed to know your public account.
The thing that saddened me most was seeing how much freaking energy and technology was thrown on the pyre of make-believe numbers. The “metaverse”, web3, the fact NFTs even happened. Hardware shortages whenever some new coin figured out how to store a hash on it. Super sophisticated scams everywhere…
If anything it was definitely a psychological experiment to see what intangible nonsense even entire nation-states would devote massive resources to instead of feeding or housing people.
Not to mention the huge mess with constantly changing laws and taxes from officials who struggle to send emails.
Plus, and finally, it was supposed to democratize money unlike fiat currency, but it was worth fiat currency, so the a-holes hoarding all the fiat currency just gobbled up all the digital ones too and tried to sell it back to us.
They really show off their creative flair when they try to mock “democrats” as “demon rats” or “demo craps” or something in all caps, and… Expect a little gold star or something?
The more flustered they are at random local news without a preexisting political bent, the more desperate they get lol.
Numerous times I’ve heard Linux Mint be referred to as exactly this! :)
The funny part is some distros like that are perfect for the other extreme that basically just needs a browser and maybe a way to write letters or print things.
Mint is very GUI-heavy and tries to keep itself out of the box and simple to maintain while staying out of the way.
…and tech support scammers have no idea what “a linux” is half the time, for added benefit. Lol
Yeah if anything it’s more “consumer friendly” than Windows!
“Oh hey we forced another update on you…anyway can you find the tiny ‘skip for now’ link on like 10 ads before we let you use your property we’re running on? Or you can just do yourself a favor and click on the big bold ‘please daddy Microsoft take care of it all here’s my credit card and I want more ads’ buttons on your way. That’d be great!”
Ahh you have one of those truly destructive force-of-nature grandmas that no UX can stop from working over a system until it begs for a complete reformat!
I feel for you <3
… Maybe keep a remote access service like RustDesk handy if she’s more than a few miles away then. 😆
… And install with BTRFS and Timeshift rollbacks.
Haha but I’ve seen it posted multiple times: “I set them up with it and my phone stops ringing for tech support calls and they’re happy with it!” haha. Some like to learn, some don’t sadly.
But YMMV, depending on the appetite for chaos wielded by one’s particular gran-gran. XD
Through setting up?! Oh I’m going to get nightmares now!
I just meant “Hey, here’s a computer, that’s the Internet button, there’s a repository app store with free programs, and occasionally you can click update when it says so and have a nice ol’ time.”
Using something like Mint or Elementary to set up a nice padded play pen. XD
Yeah I’m just against invasive commercialization, I don’t envision or encourage trying to move towards “Granny uses Arch btw”
Amazon is US-based Temu at this point. Scam products, fake reviews, trash generics, non-existent service, and egregious privacy violations just using the site…
(Not to mention directly competing and undercutting their own merchants out of business with “Amazon basics” trash)
… And people are so quick to give them eyes and ears into their homes. Yeeeesh!
And it doesn’t matter what crimes they commit at this point because AWS has basically cemented them into global infrastructure. The store is an afterthought by comparison.
I think it’s the same reason YouTube can keep shooting itself in the foot and still thrive: it’s where all the eyeballs are concentrated now.
I agree, I’m a “Have your own blog / homepage” proponent myself…
…but I got as far as a domain and have paid (cheap) hosting for a few years…then installing Wordpress and dang is it way clunkier to set up than I ever imagined. 🙃
If you’ve got a sizable USB drive, try Ventoy! Then you can put a bunch of .ISOs on it and boot from any one you want. It’s good for trying distros, or sharing Linux with others, or even putting recovery/rescue software on it. Like if you want to run memtest or alter partition data with Gparted or rescue a system that’s not booting.
Great tool to have. You can even use the leftover space like a normal flash drive and it doesn’t mind!
It’s harder to find (legal) downloadable music anymore too. 7Digital has been pretty alright for me, but I just stopped bothering with Spotify and Pandora and such. Youtube used to be great for discovery until they started mega cracking down on adblock again.
How often people are just getting rug-pulled left and right by streaming services is ridiculous.
That’s fair. I wasn’t particularly calling out Spotify but streaming services in general: They start super awesome to get users, with a vast library, reasonable prices…then it gets harder to find download media you can own because streaming is dominating…the prices go up…then the ads get more intrusive…then they start dropping large portions of their library because they don’t feel like licensing it anymore, but prices still go up, the ads get longer, and so on.
That’s what I consider the “rug pull”. Provide an awesome service at a loss, get high stonk values, “Ok sorry guys we’re public now, how is this gonna be profitable? :( Feel like watching ten minute ads? Ok cool. That’s business, chump.”
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