I’ve always found to have more luck on dating sites like Plenty of Fish and OKcupid than I do on the more modern dating apps.
I don’t know if any of them do this today, but I really liked the ones that had personality quizzes and matched people to you via personal compatibility.
Those personality tests netted me several relationships and 2 consecutive marriages.
Don't use dating apps, they're not worth your time.
If you're a guy you're going to be doing all of the messaging and conversational work almost all of the time.
Just go get a hobby that involves meeting up with people and something will happen organically. Also you'll be happier and get better interpersonal skills.
It’s how I kinda met my girlfriend and our 1 year anniversary is coming up in a few month so I must be doing something right
But we had two college classes and we’re both like “this person is so weird I should hang out with them” and we had a lot in common and eventually our friendship turned into dating
Let’s see… Video games, weeb shit, 3D printing with some dabbling in attempting to paint the prints, reading (weeb shit), occasional gym. That’s the main set
Video games: depending on the game, you can easily find a lot of women. MMOs tend to have a lot on my experience, although they tend to guild up together due to either gamer stereotypes and/or bad
experiences, so finding the guilds may by tricky. Just be nice, honest and honestly friendly, they'll find you.
Maybe try to 3d Print some anime models, paint them, put up on social media, you might even start getting requests if you finish them well enough. My GF and her friends hoard anime stickers like I used to do with magic cards as a kid.
Weeb shit: biggest Manga consumer I know is a late 20s woman with several thousand books in her personal collection. They're out there.
Hell, even just getting out into your local pokemon go group will get you out of the house, and frankly I know more women who (still) play that than men.
Pro tip go play volleyball. Tons of hot, fit (and usually asian) girls in tight shorts, high percentage of weeks too because of haikyuu and the men:women ration is often positive too.
Like I’m not going to say I’m drowning in pussy, but I’ve had a couple different girls ask me out who I would consider out of my league.
Yeah that’s terrible advice. Women don’t like to be hit on at the gym, it’s creepy to do it. They’re not going there to be social they’re going there for the same reason that you’re supposed to be there for your health for fitness.
Hit on people where they are in a social situation.
Do young people not go places to meet new people anymore? I haven’t been single since dating apps got real popular, but I still feel most people who partner up probably aren’t meeting on the Internet.
I haven’t been single in a long time, but any time I go out there always seems to be single women looking for company, at least enough to try hitting on a dude with a ring.
It’s a matter of perceived convenience and a low threshold I guess. A dating app needs you to be strong and put yourself out there once and after that you’re automatically presenting yourself to possible partners indefinitely. And you can do it from home. Less work, less anxiety, basically no effect when getting rejected because you don’t even know.
Less walkable communities, less free time, and more remote work lead to isolation. Our capitalist society was not designed for meeting people, it was designed to make people work
People who are actively dating also spend more money. We gotta bump those numbers up, Johnson, get the people dating and spending! Lets make a day where couples will spend money on each other.
Lets call it Valentines day, and we’ll put it in each quarter. It’ll be a hit.
I mean you say this but Tinder and all its clones don’t make their money off of people trying to get a date. They make money by pushing you to the brink of what they think you’ll tolerate to not leave the platform, but make matches scarce enough that you pay for premium placement; their goal is to sell premium service, not hook you up.
And actually getting you into a LTR is the opposite of what they want, because it removes two people from their pool.
Where exactly am I supposed to meet people, the grocery store? I could go to bars but I don’t drink. People always say to join groups or meet people through hobbies but all of my hobbies are complete sausage fests. Dating people you work with is usually a bad idea but that doesn’t matter anyways because almost all of the people I work with are men. People say just meet more friends but I already have more friends than I can keep up with. Actually most of those friends are even women. But none of them are around my age, single, and interested in dating me.
I’m starting to become convinced that single women who are my age don’t actually exist. I’m not sure what bank vault the government is keeping them locked up in but it certainly isn’t anywhere I go. The dating app minefield is the only place I’ve even been able to find women who are around my age. Like I legitimately don’t know where they all go. It’s baffling. They just don’t seem to exist anywhere outside of dating apps.
I’m not trying to discount any of your feelings or experiences, I went through this same thing for years until I met my current (and first) gf; for context I was 28 when we started going out.
I hated hearing it when I was in your situation but it’s always been true for me, work on yourself and keep yourself open and things will eventually happen. I gave up trying to find a girlfriend when I was 27 after years of striking out irl and on dating apps and decided to focus on myself. I was starting a graduate program and got a cool public art opportunity through my city so I just put all my energy into that which helped me focus less on tinder and my lack of sex (kinda) . One day this girl I worked with dumped her loser boyfriend and after several failed attempts to ask her out (I’m bad at putting things down, she’s bad at picking things up) i finally had a date. Four years later and she’s begging me for a ring.
Life is tough and even harder when you don’t have someone to experience it with. Again, I don’t know your situation and I don’t want to just be another asshole saying things will get better cause I fucking hate those people when I was sad and lonely, but I genuinely do believe good things come to those who wait. Keep yourself open to new experiences and listen to your gut if it’s telling you to take a chance.
Or tell me to stfu, that’s cool too I get it and won’t be upset.
That’s actually kinda reassuring to hear because I’m 27 and I have already given up on dating for a while so hopefully I’m just following in your footsteps. Also to your sex point that one isn’t my issue because sex isn’t something I care much about anyways (ace spectrum). It would just be nice to have someone to do stuff with.
But like I said dating hasn’t been a real focus of mine for a few years now anyways. I just get reminded of it when I see threads like this.
My parents met in their early forties, both years after first divorcing. You have a lot of time, if you just want someone to spend your later years with. Depends on what you want out of a relationship.
I mean, probably dont want to hear this but if all of your hobbies are complete sausage fests but you want to meet women organically you should try out some hobbies that women are more likely to do. Dancing classes, cooking classes, improv comedy groups, yoga, certain adult sports leagues etc. Once you have a few women friends it becomes much easier to meet more and most women would love to set up their friemds if they think you’re cool.
I mean that’s fair. But I don’t enjoy any of those things. Joining a woman dominated group that I don’t actually want to be in just so I can talk to the women there just feels like it would make me a bit of a creep.
It probably didn’t come across in my first message but I’m fine continuing to do my thing and just not date anyone. I was just pointing out that the advice “just go meet people” isn’t really helpful.
Do you dislike doing them, or do you not know and just think you wont like them? I'm asking because I've been in the latter experience more times than I can count and ended up liking what I was doing. If you can find something that doesn't sound awful and you're willing to put in a bit of effort into learning/meshing with the activity, you won't come off like a creep who's only there to meet women.
I don’t want to sound critical, but it seems as if you are trying to fish from the same spots you’ve never had any luck with.
I believe when people say to meet people through hobbies, they’re typically meaning new hobbies. If you aren’t finding any suitable partners within your horizons, looking more often probably isn’t going to help. That’s a sign that it’s probably time to expand your horizons, do things you haven’t before, try something you don’t have an interest in, be uncomfortable, change your environment.
The world isn’t hiding women from you, you are hiding from the women.
This might be a wild idea but how do you feel about asking you friends, male and female, if they know of any single women and for them to set you up on some dates? A few are bound to know someone and something might come out of it (at the very least an amusing anecdote).
Pretty much all of the dating apps are owned by the same company and they’re all a scam. They want your to pay to subscribe and then pay to boost your account or they’re otherwise practically useless.
Thousands of potential matches took one look and realized you were too amazing for them to have a chance, decided they’d rather swipe left than be swiped left on, or see the disappointment in your eyes when you met.
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