Where are all the Positive, Wholesome Communities gone, and where are all the hugs, where is my wholesome memes, to help me fight, the politics

Hey, I’ve been looking at what I’m subscribed to on Lemmy and it really grim, and not really what I want from a social media. I’m into tech, but the tech subs talk about evil things companies do, a lot of linux meme and programmer humor, and it’s all cool and all, piracy talking about how it’s bad what certain company do. And when you go in global it’s “Amercan Politics” “Elon Musk Bad” “Stealing data”, “our world ending”

Recently my brother and I where bored, and I went to show him we moved to lemmy, and said we had memes and all the stuff here. And looking at top memes, it was “complaining about big tech”, and “complaining on windows”.

And, I miss a bit all I had on Reddit not going to lie.

So is there any active community with some positive things anywhere you’d recommend. I just feel like I’m in a bad angry environment.

I’ve got:

!wholesome

!wholesomememes

!cat

!rpgmemes

!pixelart

!photography

!cafe

!houseplants

Edit: Wow! If you come after, I’d truly, truly invite you to look around in the comments, people here truly changed the way I see Lemmy, its way different now! Way better!

eochaid,
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I get you, but this is how people are today - and the internet feeds it. We get a lot more positive feedback from negativity these days and the internet brings more people together which means there’s more chance for a spontaneous negativoty circlejerk. And honestly, it’s harder to be positive against the grain in such a situation than it is to join the circlejerk.

This behavior has nothing to do with Lemmy or Reddit or Mastodon or Twitter or whatever platform. Yes, each has a “culture” but those cultures are easily changed as more people join. And that’s the problem with Lemmy. What you remember is a smaller community with enthusiasm for a new platform. Over time, as Lemmy gets more people and the “newness” dies down, negativity will surface. The only difference between Lemmy and Reddit is the management and federation, the people are always going to be the same.

The only thing we can do is be the change we want. Create your own positive posts. Interject negative circlejerks with positivity. Run against the grain. What you’ll find is that, whilr you’ll get hate, people will come out of the wordwork to join in your positivity - but only once someone else does it first. Misery does love company, by positivity is infectious and sometimes needs a patient zero.

Think about your contributions to this goal. You saw a lack of positivity and your immediate response was to complain about it with this post. You’re feeding the thing you hate with this very post. If, instead, you had posted something positive, then you’d be woking towards a more positive Lemmy. But instead, this post is pulling it down and forcing everyone to wallow in the very negativity you think is destroying Lemmy.

Now, of course you did it because it’s a much easier way to force a conversation. You see a problem, you want to talk about the problem. But that’s exactly why you see more negativity. It’s way easier to see and react to the negative than to react with positivity. And that’s why no matter what platform you’re on, you’re always going to have this issue.

The best anti-war stories are those that are set during peacetime, because they show the alternative, rather than glorifying the violence of war. At the same time, you cannot fight negativity with negativity.

If you want Lemmy to be a more positive environment, you’ll need to add some positivity of your own. But I promise you, your investment will pay dividends. People will come out of the woodwork to join in whatever positive message you put out. Sure, you’ll have haters, but others will defend you. You just have to start the ball running.

mob,

I just want some reasonable and active communities. Those “wholesome” based communities often end up feeling really fake.

OceanSoap,

Yeah, forced wholesomeness can be exhausting too. I just want normal convo where people aren’t cramming their doom shit down your throat.

I replied to an ask lemmy post about how I stay positive with things going to shit, so I said how and people literally were trying to drag me down into doom. Like: “how dare you think this way, this is why you’re wrong and should be feeling more negative.”

vonbaronhans,

Yeah, for most people it’s “God it’s terrible out here. I’d like to do things that make me feel better.” And some folks hear that and go, “yeah you’re SUPPOSED to feel bad because the world is bad and you should actually be MORE angry and upset so that you’ll join my political project.”

Which, like, has some truth to it. Capitalism is bad, true enough.

But if someone is just looking for connection, entertainment, and some good times to carry us through the bad… probably not the best time to recruit them into a political cause. Well, you could, if your political project has a big component of joy to it.

But I get it. I also get burned out just trying to stay informed. And maybe I just wanna talk about the new jazz album I found yesterday (black classical music by Yussuf Dayes) or the new game I’m stoked about (Sea of Stars). Good art would exist under any political system, after all!

Afghaniscran,

I’m not well versed in Lemmy so this might be totally incorrect but I think if you share a link, instead of the c/ you put “!” at the front so people of different instances can open them community on their own instance.

I’m basically just regurgitating what I’ve read and it could be wrong.

Also just for the sake of conversation, one of my favourite wholesome Reddit subs was mum for a minute where people without mother’s would go for motherly support and congratulations. I haven’t seen anything like it here yet.

Kyoyeou,

I’ve changed it, thank you very much!

Afghaniscran,

No problem at all haha. I’m glad it worked tbh. Nothing worse that offering up advice for it to just be wrong.

Undearius, (edited )
@Undearius@lemmy.ca avatar

I can’t speak for any of the apps but all these should link to the community through your own instance

/m/ /m/[email protected]

/c/ /c/[email protected]

! !cat

Interestingly, Connect is formatting all of them with an exclamation point instead of the first slash, like !m/

Afghaniscran,

Ah ok, I’m using an android app so that may be why I don’t get a clickable(tappable?) link unless it is an exclamation point to start it.

Thisfox,

I’m on memmy, and the only links that are clickable have no exclamation mark at the start… So hmmm. Not universal?

Afghaniscran,

I guess not. I haven’t got the slightest with these things.

balls_expert,

At least we don’t have fightporn justiceserved and all that bullshit

ekky43,

I feel ya, a few of my personal favorites when it comes to escaping all the politics are:

!aminals

!itemshop

!nathanwpyle

!raccoons

!witchymemes

And then of course all of the ImaginaryX communities, which I’m sure there exists a register of somewhere, but I just sub as I stumble across them.

Kyoyeou,

Witchymemes looks very fun

Lando_,

Witchy memes has been surprisingly active too. I’d add tumblr and wholesome Yuri but those aren’t nearly as active as witchy memes. Lol

Very_Bad_Janet,

Upliftingnews on Lemmy.World is a good one. I'm on kbin so not sure how to link:

@upliftingnews

Kyoyeou,

I’ve got the tip to put a ! Instead of the @ in front so that no matter where you are on the Lemmy verse you can open it!

Very_Bad_Janet,

So like this?

https://lemmy.world/c/upliftingnews

I hope this works for everyone. Thanks for the tip!

Kyoyeou,

I think you also need to add the name behind of the serv: Like this : !upliftingnews Edit: Yeah like that!

Thisfox,

I am missing the catsubs. Calicos, voids, standard issue, whatevers. Feline fanciers posting pics of their purr machines. Doesn’t seem to be a thing here.

Raisin8659,
@Raisin8659@monyet.cc avatar

Try: lemmyverse.net/communities?query=cat

Codandchips,
@Codandchips@lemmy.world avatar

Pop over to !ukcasual There’s a few non-Brits signed up, so you’ll won’t feel left out. Bring some chocolate Hobnobs and we’ll put the kettle on.

Kyoyeou,

Great idea, I’m moving there in one week, so that’s a great idea

TeaHands,
@TeaHands@lemmy.world avatar

Pre-emptive welcome!

Kyoyeou,

Thank you very much!

Codandchips,
@Codandchips@lemmy.world avatar

Cool! Then you may want check out !unitedkingdon or !london

OnceADream,

Not to jump right on you lol, but I think there’s a typo in your first link. M vs N maybe?

Codandchips,
@Codandchips@lemmy.world avatar

Ah! Yes, fat fingers on mobile! !unitedkingdom

Raisin8659, (edited )
@Raisin8659@monyet.cc avatar

The /c I found relaxing include:

Well, there are a lot to list (I only got to ‘c’). One of the best things you can do is, post positive things that make you happy on the /c you follow for your fellow lemmies. The happiness this generates are multiple times worth the posts you read. Try it. Be a positive content relayer / originator yourself.

Kyoyeou,

Thank you, those are great!

geophysicist,

Andfinally is a great find, thanks!

Bebo,

To keep negative things to a minimum I have subscribed to a cat community, aww community, two dog communities, and have restricted myself to only one technology community. No news communities.

TeaHands,
@TeaHands@lemmy.world avatar

There are some surprisingly active craft communities here that are by definition pretty wholesome, but I guess probably not that interesting if you’re not into the specific hobbies themselves. ymmv. You can find a sticky thread with a ton of them listed here lemmy.world/post/1715954

Kyoyeou,

Just took a look and subscribed to some of those to learn a bit!

Papanca,

!lemmybewholesome

Kyoyeou,

Thank you! This is a great community!

Candelestine,

I’m guessing it has to do with our early-adopter status still. Gotta remember, we’re still the scrappy little underdog that only the weirdos know about. We are all weirdos, you, me, everyone else. Being here is sufficient to make that true. Over time that’ll change, but for now we’re just too unknown still.

So, what you have here is a lot of idealists that disapprove of reddit, a lot of people that got banned from reddit and can’t go back, and a lot of tech bros and excited young people in general.

You can probably see how these different demographics can kinda come together to create what we see around us here, while a lot of the more “normie” content is still mostly back where we came from. (for us reddit refugees anyway)

That said, you can find a small handful of support group communities for things like alcoholics, and the food and cat subs tend to be fairly active and not so much of a constant clickbait downer. The various AskWhatever subs aren’t bad either, though activity is still very light.

We’re still in the very early stages though, a phase that’ll probably last another year or two. Give us time, we don’t even have our software at full functionality yet.

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