I learned way too late about the fertility cycle of my female reproductive organs. What, I can feel my cervix, if I just reach into my vagina deep enough?! And oh, so during my fertile days, my vulva will get slippery, my cervix is soft like my earlobe, and my cervical mucus becomes stretchy like egg white?! Also, my body temperature rises?! And on the not-so-fertile days, my cervix is closed, feels harder (like the tip of my nose), and none or less mucus. That’s wild, so much to learn about a body that I thought I knew!
(You can use these observations to contracept or to become pregnant, but if you do, please inform yourself about Natural Family Planning (NFP) or the sympto-thermal method. It takes a routine and some experience for it to be reliable, but once you get the hang of it, it is awesome!)
I knew someone who said women’s vagina had 5 holes and seriously argued with me about it. I thought he was trying to troll me and when he said he paid a prostitute and looked up close I just left without saying anything else.
Technically a vagina has six holes (assuming this guy is talking about the whole genital when he says vagina):
The urethra, where pee comes out
The vagina, where sex
Two paraurethral glands (Skene’s glands), which secrete lubricating mucous during arousal and also produce female ejaculate when squirting (it’s not piss!) - these glands are analogous to prostatic glands in males
Two greater vestibular glands (Bartholin glands, which are paravaginal), which also secrete lubricating fluid.
Although I would advise against putting anything in those last four (they are visible to the naked eye but still very small). Also not sure how he counted 5.
This was around 30 years ago maybe more. But I’m 99.99% sure he had no idea what a gland is or any anotomical knowledge to know where to look. At the time his only real life experience in person with a vagina was when he came to this world.
I learned a lot about the human reproductive system in both male and females while I lived in Maryland. I moved to Texas and I learned that women are sinners and so they suffer every month and men have OP rib bones.
My high school sex ed never taught anything gay or anal. So I knew to wear a condom with my first girlfriend, but until I was a freshman in college (a year ago…) I didn’t realize it’s important to wear one with a guy too. First gay experience, we’d been seeing each other for a month and I thought I was pretty ready, sock on the dorm door and everything, but then bro asked me if I had a condom and I was like “huh?” And obviously I didn’t so he just gave me head instead
For whatever reason I thought condoms only helped in vaginal sex, since that’s the only thing they taught its use for. Didn’t really know how gay and bi men prevent STIs other than monogamy and a few other assumptions. Part of that stupidity was probably just me being optimistic and horny brained about not having to wear anything
I did have to learn the hard way. There’s me, tied up, horny, ready to finally find out what it’s like to get fucked, and this guy puts on a condom.
Far too much friction. Ridiculously painful. And it wasn’t from the pressure; it was from the friction.
I don’t know if the lube that wasn’t working or what. This guy did have a dom style that was 100% based on pain though. Like he was just a straight up sadist more than he was a power tripper.
Not sex related, but I learned it in sex ed. Most males do not have a big depression in their chest. Turns out that the males in my family happened to have a condition known as Pectus Excavatum.
Some pictures if you search that look way worse than I have it. But for example it impacts my ability to run for a long time because I will get side-stich faster
Let me just say here how much I appreciate the sex ed I got in school.
I’m talking life-size cross-section models of a human torso that you could take individual organs out of for closer inspection.
One thing we still didn’t learn much about is how wildly different periods can be for different people, I very much appreciated a friend explaining this to me.
Different people can have different cycle lengths, durations, and intensity/pain/flow during ones period.
All those things can also vary for the same person month to month and it can get even more variable as you move between life events (having kids, getting older).
Agreed on period variation. I remember my teacher telling everyone women didn’t lose more than a teaspoon of blood over the course of a period and I was so confused because I could be sitting over the toilet and losing a teaspoon’s worth in 2 minutes. But no, apparently I was misjudging the amount.
I felt vindicated when I later bought a mooncup and it would fill up in an hour 😆
The hymen is not normally ripping at the “first time”, but these myths come from brutal men that have no compassion and dont know how to make both people horny.
Breaking a hymen when you first have sex is indeed a myth, but so is the idea that sufficient arousal will prevent tearing every hymen.
Hymens come in all sorts of shapes and sizes and elasticities. They can tear from many things but most people with hymens are quite likely to experience minor tearing or bleeding the first time they have sex. That’s especially true if the hymen is particularly large or thick and if you haven’t torn it before the first time you had sex.
That’s the last myth, even if breaking a hymen was a real thing required for sex, it doesn’t say anything about virginity because many girls tear it in childhood and puberty from a variety of activities as innocuous as swimming.
That’s true to some extent. Any stretching will return to nominal state in fairly short order, and tears certainly heal. However it never goes back to it’s “pretorn” state, and I wouldn’t think anyone would want it to, a lot of hymens don’t allow significant penetration of foreign objects (or body parts) in their original states. The article I linked has more details on that in a few different sections.
Yeah I didn’t really connect the dots that my penis had been altered. I thought my friend had the weird penis. Turns out his is the way it’s supposed to be.
I didn’t understand the concept of a climax until it happened. The first time crankin it I remember mid way through thinking “I don’t get it, so if I keep doing this it just keeps feeling better and better infinitely?” When it happened it was one of the most stunning moments of my life.
Until my first ejaculation, I thought the only time something came out of my penis was when I was peeing. I was so surprised when something else came out and holy shit there was so much of it everywhere. I didn’t know that could happen and it made a mess all over my surroundings.
Last minute addition: I thought a woman could get pregnant if a man licked between her boobs. This was before my first ejaculation.
I had my first real ejaculation while I was sleeping as a kid. The one time I slept over at my grandma’s. She never said anything but boy did I have impecable timing.
Not my info but this year a classmate confided in me the following:
“it took an embarrassingly long time to realize that men have multiple holes on their penis”.
I thought she was joking but she was dead serious, (she was from a very conservative family to put it mildly and had been withheld from sex-ed their entire life). For some reason they insisted arguing about it with me and the other guy present.
Well, if you are not circumcised then you have a hole in your foreskin (when it is not retracted), and you also have the hole in the glans. So, multiple holes.
At first I read that as an old printer from a school, and thought that was a very weird thing to want, but then I realised you meant a printer that was old school, and it all suddenly made sense to me!
Mine was “Not all women like being touched the same way”. As in, some women can’t reach orgasm from penetration alone, but some do. Some want direct pressure on their clitoris, some do not. And this all makes sense, not everyone likes the same things.
And that is, for me at least, where the fun is. I like to figure things out. I like to see how stuff works. And women are pretty awesome. What would be a better evening than figuring out exactly how to pleasure someone, through communication and experimentation? I’m still finding ways to push my wife’s buttons 14 years later.
Sucks when the person doesn’t like to communicate with you and just ignores her own issues to just satisfy you.
I was less satisfied because I wasn’t allowed to figure it out and just felt like a bad person. The sex drive went down for her after a year, no wonder, but its not my fault either.
2 years later and I broke with her up as she was pretty manipulative and impossible to talk to from the beginning.
Sounds familiar. I wasn’t doing it practically at all for my ex, and I could tell, but she refused to acknowledge any problem. Like, she wasn’t cumming. She said she was.
I remember the literal one time I made her cum she said in this sort of surprised voice “I … I’m cumming”.
It’s not that orgasms were new to her. It’s that because I wasn’t pleasing her, she assumed I had never pleased any woman and that I didn’t know the difference. So she just lied, and went to find other men to get her to cum. As in, just cheated on me to get what she needed.
That hurt extremely bad. Hearing that something’s not working for my partner is slightly deflating, followed by exciting again when whatever we changed makes it work. Hearing (implicitly) that I’m too hopeless to even be notified of the problem, fucked with my head badly.
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